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scans and taking siblings????

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oliali7 · 13/05/2008 10:32

I have my 21 wk scan next week and would really like to take my 10 yr old twins - anyone else taken their children along??

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MimieD · 13/05/2008 11:27

I wouldn't take my DD to the anomaly scan. What if something (heaven forbid) is wrong? If you want to take your twins, book a private scan after the anomaly one.

MamaG · 13/05/2008 11:28

I am going to have to take my DC with me to my 20 week scan - aged 4 and 8. DD (oldst) is v sensible so can supervise DS in hte waiting room while I go in with DH. Then if, if all ok, we can let them come in to have a look.

Not ideal, but its tough

MerlinsBeard · 13/05/2008 11:30

I took my (then) 2 yo to 20 wk scan. would have asked for a sitter if he had been older 'just in case'.

notnowbernard · 13/05/2008 11:31

Took dd1 along (she was about 2.6)

The lady gave her her own scan pic to take home and show her friends

moopymoo · 13/05/2008 11:31

not a good plan imo for above reasons.

MamaG · 13/05/2008 11:32

But sometimes its unavoidable

pagwatch · 13/05/2008 11:33

I took DS1 when he was 10 to second scan at 20 weeks.
We had a slightly different situation from most as we had openly discussed the issue of there being problems with him.
DS2 is severely disabled and we were very open with DS1 about the fact that we may have another child with issues. He has always been about 40 years old so we knew he needed to be in the loop as it were.
All was fine. Only bit I didn't prepare for was that he imediately asked if he was having a brother or a sister and Dr told him. We hadn't actually wanted to know

notnowbernard · 13/05/2008 11:35

Pagwatch at scanner telling ds the gender!!

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oliali7 · 13/05/2008 12:04

Thanks - will rethink maybe. i was going to sit them outside until all was ok but I suppose if there was something wrong I wouldn't know what to do.

I really want to keep them involved though.....

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AHLH · 13/05/2008 13:31

HAd my 20 week scan a coupel of weeks ago, Letter from hospital specifically asked me not to bring any older children along. I guess for all the above reasons. I don't have any older children, so I didn't really think about it too hard, but there is always the "what if....?" scenario, which I guess ispotentially far more distressing than toddlers running round the waiting room.

pagwatch · 13/05/2008 13:33

notnowbernard

I know. I was too but as it turned out he and DH were so happy it was lovely.

MorocconOil · 13/05/2008 14:22

I had a low lying placenta and had to have extra scans to monitor this. DS1 came with me to one of them. He was 5 at the time. He loved it especially as it was confirmed he was going to have a little sister. He still remembers it now three years on.

beforesunrise · 13/05/2008 14:30

i took dd (then 22 months) to the 20 week scan and hen to the 34 week scan. she loved it, it made the whole "baby in the tummy" thing real for her.

i did worry about the whole what if something's wrong- but decided that i would deal with that as and when...

MrsTittleMouse · 13/05/2008 14:41

My local hospital does not allow children in for the scans. You're only allowed one adult as support. There are signs up all over the place saying that "this is a medical procedure" etc. etc. I suppose that they've had cases of the whole family, aunties and uncles included turning up to have a look at the baby. So the hospital may make them wait outside anyway.

We have had two friends who have discovered serious problems at the 20 week scan. Sadly neither baby survived. It's very rare (we must know at least a hundred babies who were just fine), but I wouldn't want to take the risk. Even if there is something minor that is flagged up by the scan, would you want to have to deal with the older siblings while you try to come to terms with it yourself?

MrsTittleMouse · 13/05/2008 14:44

Just had another think about it - the ultrasound staff are usually really busy (and running late!). Once they have determined that the baby is OK, I just can't see them having the time to wait for your twins to come in, and then have a look at the baby, even just for a minute or two.

There are plenty of other ways to keep them involved anyway. They will be able to feel the baby moving before too long.

pinkyminky · 13/05/2008 14:46

I took DS to my 20 week scan, there was nowhere else for him to go! He didn't really know what was going on but chatted to the sonographer quite happily. He would only have been about 13 months old. We will probably take them to my 20 week scan next month, too.

f1nut · 13/05/2008 15:37

i have a scan every 2 wks when i see consultant, always have my 3 y/o with me but i have no choice as have no-where els to leave him, i wouldnt take dd 9 or ds5 as someone els said if there was a problem wouldnt want them to experience that.

Twinkie1 · 13/05/2008 15:39

Glad I didn't take DD to my scan when I was pregnant with DS - had to go for CVS and it was awful so I think it is a bad idea!

Squiffy · 13/05/2008 15:49

I've experienced one of those scans where you go in expecting everything to be fine, and find out that it isn't..... very unlikely I know, but not worth the risk.

and I would not take my kids alogn to the hospital and leave them outside the room either, because if something was wrong you might not be in a good emotional position to explain it to them appropriately.

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