Gender reveal

[Lazycatx]

I am expecting my third and last child. It is a high risk pregnancy therefore it will be my last so my husband and I decided we would host a gender reveal with our family and close friends.

Since this morning he has been completely nasty to me because I went out for a meal with some friends yesterday which has meant he has had to get the kids ready for bed, feed the dog, wash up etc.

Because of the way he has made me feel today and the things he has said I no longer want to have this gender reveal which would be organised and paid for by me. Why should I go through all this effort!?

Would it be unreasonable for me not to take him to the gender scan tomorrow? He doesn't seem enthusiastic anyway... am I being heartless in doing so? Happy to keep the gender to myself... would like some perspective in this decision please...

I can understand feeling really pissed off in that situation. This may be easier said than done, but don't let your anger get in the way of what you want these memories to be.

In one month's time, one years time etc, would you rather he'd been there for the scan? If you genuinely wouldn't care either way, even without the anger, then that's absolutely fine, but just make sure you don't make a decision based on a shorter term emotion.

I may be wrong but it does feel like something it would be nice for the two of you to do together

He sounds like a complete shite.

I would consider he has checked out of your relationship..
Time to consider if you want him around you 24/7...

Sounds like he's been crappy but maybe he just had a bad night sleep, woke up on the wrong side of bed etc.etc.

Pretty meh about the gender reveal, if you don't feel inclined why bother. I wouldn't leave him out of the scan though, it's juts going to escalate things and sour what could be a key memory for you in years to come.

I can understand you no longer wanting to host a gender reveal if that’s truly what you want. But I wouldn’t stop him from attending the gender scan. This is his baby too.

However, I would warn him to check his attitude and behaviour towards you and explain that attending the gender scan with him tomorrow will not be possible if he cannot apologise and be kind.