Pregnant after loss

[KLL97]

Hi! I’m currently 12w3d following back to back losses.

December 22 - first baby
September 24 - 16 week MMC (due to parvovirus infection)
December 24 - chemical pregnancy (almost 5 weeks)

I had my dating scan on Monday at 11+6 and everything was great, baby was jumping around all over. I was convinced going into the scan it would be bad news. I’m still convinced something bad has happened I’m absolutely terrified. I spend every second of the day worrying and thinking the worst, it’s exhausting 😩 PAL is hard. Our next scan will be 16 weeks which is when we lost our baby in September and it was just the most devastating time for us. So difficult to get out of my negative/ pessimistic mindset! I see a counsellor for PAL but it doesn’t really help much. Not sure what the point in this post is really! Just to get it off my chest. I’m stressed!

Hey, congrats! PAL is so hard. I’m 8 weeks after 4 previous losses and I cannot relax and will not until after 12 weeks anyway. I’m just on my way home from a scan and baby is measuring ahead which is great as was 2 days behind last week. I plan on doing a bit of meditation and having a nap. I know it sounds strange but the only way I can really cope with it is not to really think of it? And put it to back of my mind, and it’s worked for me as I’m usually a big stresser! Try looking into doing some nice relaxing things for you self like reflexology, pregnancy massages etc 🥰

I can empathise with this so much. My previous pregnancies ended in losses too, and I'm finding it impossible to lose the anxiety of it happening again. I'm almost 16 weeks, and dating scan was all fine but I can't shake the negative feeling that it'll all end in another loss.

I'm trying to tell myself the odds are in our favour, but I know how hard it is to accept that. You're not alone 💕

Thank you both so much. It’s so hard isn’t it 😩 sending good vibes and hopefully we all get to hold our healthy babies this year ❤️

I’m 9 weeks pregnant after a MMC last February. Had a scan earlier this week and everything was right on track but it only calmed me down for the day now I’m anxious again for the 12 week scan.

This is how I dealt with it- I had a lot of losses

I made a conscious decision to enjoy every pregnancy no matter how long it lasted- because each pregnancy was time with my child and if it wasn't going to last I didn't want to have spent the whole pregnancy anxious. I named each baby (mainly nature names, not names that I would use as a first name)

It obviously is much harder than I have just written, but when I decided to embrace the pregnancy it didn't make any difference to the grief I felt when I lost the baby- the grief was the same even when I tried to not get attached/was anxious.