Unplanned pregnancy what to do?

[Scaredandconfusedmum]

Hi all,
currently found out that I am about 6wks pregnant and very unsure of what to do about it!
Im 32 and always said no kids after 30.
my partner is 46 with 3 kids 24,16,12. And I have a daughter aged 9.
pregnancy came as a total shock now very unsure of my feelings. I immediately thought absolutely no way, none of us wanted this and thought the decision was made. However, upon announcing the news to my partner he couldn’t hide his happiness and excitement! I am totally devastated and torn.
After speaking about it on and off it’s clear that he would like to keep the pregnancy going but I don’t feel like he has the right reasons too and we just end up arguing as I give out all of the ‘cons’ to going through with it. Also morally I don’t even know if I could terminate and having a serious conflict within myself. He will resent me if I terminate and I will resent him if we keep.
just looking for advice as I am so unsure how I feel and most likely have antenatal depression at this moment.
thanks for the support!

Years ago I had unexpected pregnancy. ExH (H at the time) was over the moon but I wasn't. I ended up having an abortion and it was a great decision.

I'm not sure I understand the part about no kids after 30 - where is that concern coming from and is that influencing how you feel or is it more other factors?

I have a 6 and 10 year old, from mine and my partners previous relationships and we were very keen to have an 'ours' baby, the primary driver was wanting another, I always thought I'd have another after my first but then split with her dad, same for my partner and while it wasn't the driving force it's been a great way to complete our blended family.

I worried about the age gaps and I do appreciate that's even more significant for you, starting again when you're well out of the baby phase is daunting!

But.. if you don't want the baby that's enough. It's probably worth exploring those conversations first and seeing how you feel about them if that's your preferred route? You shouldn't feel guilty for ending the pregnancy if that's what's right for you x

Personally (and this is just me, I’m not saying this is what you should do), I think I’d never ‘regret’ having a baby if I found out I was pregnant, but I’d probably regret an abortion. The unknown scares me but I can’t imagine I’d ever wish I’d had an abortion when I’m holding my baby, you know?

Completely not against abortions if that is what is right for you! And it’s one of those “you don’t know until you’re in that position”. Sending you a hug OP!

flip a coin and see how you feel when you get the result. It’s okay to be frightened and shocked but an abortion can take serious toll on your mental health and relationship. If you feel relief when it lands on abortion then explore that option.