12 Week Scan Nerves

[LimeSloth]

I have my 12 week scan tomorrow and I am terrified. My social media is constantly showing me videos/ posts about people suffering MMC, and every post I read on forums seems to have several people discussing their MMC. It’s convincing me that this is the norm and it will happen to me too. We decided against an early scan because we worried we’d hear bad news and didn’t want this to come from a private centre incase we didn’t get the support, but I’m so scared we’ve got this far completely unaware of a problem.

We haven’t told anyone about the pregnancy, again because we were scared that something would go wrong, so don’t have anyone to share my worries with. I know that I cannot change the outcome and worrying isn’t going to change anything but I just felt the need to share to hopefully help reduce the anxiety a bit.

I had the same anxiety OP and what I did which really helped me was “muting” words on social media, so anything about miscarriage and then later on when my baby was born I also muted anything re. SIDS. I know these things exist, but seeing them every time I opened my phone was making my anxiety so so much worse.

Good luck tomorrow! X

It's very normal to feel anxiety around your scans - especially the 12 week one.
Hope all goes well

I have felt like this, op. It’s almost like it feels more likely than not that something will go wrong.

What I’m telling myself is that the women whose pregnancies are fine are so much less likely to post on forums - why would they? Everyone posts when they need some support or reassurance, for something going wrong or something concerning happening.
So for that reason, when we’re scrolling or reading, we’re seeing a disproportionate number of these instances compared to real life. Add in confirmation bias and it makes it feel inevitable that something will go wrong.

We can’t know for sure or control anything but it’s far more likely that things will go well.

i agree! I have had these feelings around both of my children’s scans and would spend hours reading negative stories/swotting up on what “NT levels are ideal” etc. But did I post when my scans were fine - no! So for all the scary stories there are loads of positive ones - people just don’t post. Sending you a giant hug for tomorrow. Let us know how it went ❤️

I have the same worries and social media videos and my scan is this week.

I really hate Tiktok for this and have stopped using it for the next few weeks. I think the app knows I've been googling about missed miscarriages (specifically ones around the 12 week mark) it keeps showing me the videos.. and then maybe cos I watch the videos to find out more they then show more... it's a nightmare!

I really hope it goes well for you today x

The thought of a MMC is horrifying and I agree, my phone is doing a horrible job of making me also think this is the norm. Since finding out I was pregnant I’ve come across 3 other pregnancies on Insta and all 3 have resulted in miscarriages.

I have everything crossed for your scan today 🤞

Wishing you the best! Try not to engage with social media content as the algorithm will drive more of this content to you.

Thank you for all the messages. I went through my social media and muted any words connected to MMC etc and that definitely helped last night.

It all went well today and am actually further ahead than I thought which was a pleasant surprise!