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Paranoid about miscarriage

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breakfastdinnerandtea · 09/03/2025 05:51

I am very very early days (4+3) in my pregnancy #3. By now, with 1&2 I was being sick but with this one I’ve had only a little nausea. I haven’t bled, but I’ve seen so many missed miscarriages in my job that I’m panicking that it will happen. How can I reassure myself, or at least stop myself from worrying so much?
thanks all

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Shahhhh · 09/03/2025 08:16

Hi OP, didn't wanna read and run 💛 it's so hard not to worry. All I can really tell you is every single pregnancy is so different, I've heard women say they had awful sickness and even HG with one baby and then practically nothing with the next. You have no bleeding and (I assume as you haven't mentioned it) no cramps so, I think at this point your little bean sounds ok in there!

It's especially hard this early on because you can't self refer to EPU yet. Could you go to the GP and see if they can refer you just for some advice and guidance from the midwives?

Sending you a huge hug xxx

RedHelenB · 09/03/2025 08:23

From experience I had a missed mc and didn't have nausea and also had a bit of spotting which was the opposite of my other pregnancies.
After my mc with my next pg it was very much hope for the best but prepare for the worse. No such thing as reassurance early scans where I live.
Having said all that, I know other muns who have had loads of bleeding, no nausea etc and went on to have a healthy baby.

breakfastdinnerandtea · 09/03/2025 08:25

Thank you both. I don't know what's got into me, I'm just completely panicking for no reason. I have had to tell people this early because of my job but I feel like it might be all for nothing.

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OptimisticRealist2024 · 09/03/2025 09:35

@breakfastdinnerandtea

The panicking isn't for no reason - you've seen it a lot and I think it's a natural response so don't be hard on yourself. ❤️

I was very anxious early on in this pregnancy after a MMC in July. (Still get wobbles and I'm 25 weeks tomorrow 🙃).

I kept telling myself that "today, I'm pregnant". It's a reminder to be present - it's so sad, but if you're losing the pregnancy then there's nothing you can do to stop it.

I didn't have any proper symptoms this time round until I was about 7 weeks. I went into EPU with horrific cramps but no bleeding at 6 weeks and it was just bedding in pains. They did a scan and baby had a heartbeat, which is apparently a good sign of a viable pregnancy. (Not a guarantee and plenty don't see a heartbeat until 7/8 weeks.) I knew it could all still stop the next day. It was a long 6 weeks!

I'd focus on the things you can do to make your life easier - taking it one day at a time, looking after your mental well-being - it will help to switch your brain to a different direction. It won't prevent a miscarriage but means you won't be in fight/flight mode the whole time.

I also found this odds calculator reassuring - for when my brain wouldn't shut up and I wanted facts. https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

Take care of yourself - miscarriages are almost always because of things you have no control over (it's never your fault).

But it won't do any harm to rest, gentle exercise and eating well if you can manage it, taking your vitamins, and asking for help when you need it.

Fingers crossed for you. 🍀 It will be a long 12 weeks because you found out so early, but take it one day at a time and you'll be through it before you know it.

Miscarriage Odds Reassurer

A positive spin on Miscarriage. The Reassurer shows you the odds of miscarriage and birth based on pregnancy length and maternal history.

https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

Superscientist · 09/03/2025 11:55

I've had hyperemesis in 3 of my 4 pregnancies usually starting weeks 4-5. One successful birth two miscarriages. I'm pregnant again much less nausea and sickness and didn't find out until 7 weeks by which point I usually can't function but I have had an early scan and was 8 weeks with a heartbeat much further than I managed in my last pregnancy which didn't get past 6 weeks gestation, missed miscarriage, physical loss the pregnancy at 9-10 weeks.
It is rather disconcerting but I know the hyperemesis wasn't a positive sign last time

breakfastdinnerandtea · 09/03/2025 15:01

Thanks all. I've been a mess this morning but these comments have really helped. I've kept busy today so it's kept my mind off it. Back to work tomorrow where I'll be busy but I'll have to spill the beans 😔

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Givemethesun · 09/03/2025 19:11

Hi op completely get this. I was the same my anxiety was awful and I felt I had no symptoms compared to my first. Anyway roll on 6 weeks and symptoms hit my like a tonne of bricks. I also got an early scan which helped relax me a bit. Not totally. Sorry no real help but it’s not just you worrying xx

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