12 Week Scan Anxiety??

[Luisemol23]

My 12 week scan is tomorrow (Monday) and I cannot shake the anxiety for it. This is my second child as I have ds who is 2 next month. For some reason my anxiety is 10x worse this time around which i thought I would be less anxious with my second:/ I had a private early scan at 8 weeks and all was well and heartbeat seen but I just can’t help but feel as though I will get bad news at this scan. I suppose it doesn’t help when you see stories of people having a postive early scan and then bad news at the dating scan😔not sure the point of the post just wanted to get it out there as I’m sure DP is sick of me talking about how anxious I am for the scan 🙈 can anyone else relate

I can totally relate. My second pregnancy was from IVF and the anxiety was on another level!
I received lots of support from the perinatal mental health midwives so please speak up at every appointment and with your community midwives... Help is available. Deep breath mama, you got this

congratulations OP, hope the pregnancy is all going well other than the anxiety

its completely normal to get the pre scan nerves, having them isn’t an indication that anything is wrong. I was ok until the morning of the scan then I’d get all snappy and irritable due to nerves

do try and stay away from negative stories, they serve absolutely no purpose other than fucking with our heads

when these thoughts pop up try to either distract yourself, or acknowledge them and tell your brain “we don’t have any evidence that something is wrong so we’re not doing this”. It’s sometimes quite helpful doing this as it separates you from your thoughts

hope it all goes well tomorrow!

Scanxiety is awful, I get it before every scan to the point it sometimes makes me physically sick.
I've also had it much worse in my second pregnancy for some reason

Oh bless you! I totally relate, for me the only thing that worked was frequent scans. So I had scans at 6 weeks, 8 weeks, 9.5 weeks, 11 weeks and 12 weeks which made the wait easier

Yes i definitely will this time around thankyou so much for this i actually didn’t know this was a thing tbh 😊🥰

I like that saying we don’t have any evidence anything is wrong I’m going to start applying that because it’s true I haven’t got any signs that point to something is bad just my anxiety getting away with itself I suppose!!🙈🥰 thankyou !!

Yes!! Just before my 8 week scan I was physically sick in my car with nerves it’s awful isn’t it

That is the plan to do some scans with my first I did a private early scan at 6 weeks then the nhs scan at 12 weeks a private gender scan at 17 weeks the NHS 20 week one and then a private 3d one at 29 weeks and it definitely eased my anxiety and gave me something to look foward to and I will be doing similar with this pregnancy too😊😊

Just a wee update but scan went well baby healthy and nice strong heartbeat🥳

Ah so glad it all went well, congratulations!

Congratulations! Glad the scan went well, once I started feeling baby moving at 14 weeks I felt the need for less scans. Once he was kicking at 17/18 weeks frequently things were so much easier. I had a 15 week scan, a 17 week scan and then the 20 week scan

Yeah definitely once they kick it definitely helps eases the anxiety I didn’t feel anything until around 22 weeks with my first so hopefully a bit earlier this time as it’s my second 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Thankyou!😊😊