Pregnancy 2 months after MMC

[Jemily997]

Hi all, I’m not sure what I’m looking for posting this, maybe just some reassurance and success stories?
A bit of background- I unexpectedly fell pregnant and found out at 4 weeks in November last year, we were both over the moon especially after we had a 6 week scan due to spotting and saw a healthy heartbeat. We had a private scan booked for 8 weeks prior to going to the EPAU scan, and decided to keep the appointment to see how our baby was growing, but it was here that we found the baby’s heart had stopped beating at 7+2. I had surgical management on Christmas Eve, and we were both devastated.
Fast forward to now, I found out I was pregnant again on Tuesday this week, and tested positive on a digital on Wednesday morning (my period wasn’t due till yesterday). My tests are showing so much darker than my first pregnancy even though I am at the exact same point in my cycle, and I do have a good feeling about this one but I’m absolutely terrified and I feel like I can’t enjoy the experience with the fears that the exact same thing will happen again…
With my last pregnancy, we had no idea the baby had passed as I still had all my pregnancy symptoms. I have always been so in touch with my body but now I haven’t felt further from that

Has anyone been through similar and have had a successful pregnancy and healthy baby so soon after a miscarriage? How did you manage the anxiety of being pregnant after a MMC?

Sorry for the long message, and thank you for reading💓

Sending hugs. I had a successful pregnancy after a MMC (I have complicated history with other losses). My successful pregnancy was 2 months after my last MMC. Unexpected as we weren't actually trying due to other factors. Charlie has just turned 3 years now :) Happy and healthy.

I felt it was really had to enjoy the pregnancy until I got passed milestones that we didn't make with the MMC (and my other losses). I tried to push it to the back of my mind and take a day at a time. Enjoy what I could when I could and remember that it was a new pregnancy. We did little things like when we got a successful heartbeat...celebrate that together, when we got to 12 weeks - celebrate that. I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant until 20 weeks (bar my boss at work so I could WFH and hid it)

Personally I wouldn't focus on how dark or light tests are even at the same stage. Definitely stay away from falling into the line progression trap. My experience it has little correlation to the outcome.

I was forever worrying about symptoms. Whether they were there or not. Comparing everything to the MMC. I'd say try not to do this....it will drive you crazy all the time.

I had a MMC at 7/8 weeks in July, and fell pregnant again in October. As I type this, I can feel baby kicking at 23 weeks 😊 I felt so anxious the first 12 weeks this time but have had much stronger symptoms to keep me occupied. Everything looking good now (touch wood!) and now anxious about completely different things -- but I think this is the way I'm wired rather than trauma from the MMC. The first trimester is the worst - but we did similar to pp and celebrated the little milestones to keep things positive. The nice thing is that I mostly* don't care about any of the little things, really - the stuff we have to learn or buy or do - I'm just really glad the baby has a heartbeat and is wriggling about.

(*I've had a little wobble about prams and one bonkers episode last week where I fully broke down about not having counter space in our minuscule kitchen for baby stuff 😂 But I'm only human!)

My MMC due date would have been on 22 February - I did feel a bit emotional about that which caught me off guard tbh. But I keep remembering that I have a healthy baby growing now, and that feels good. 😌 Bizarrely, this baby is due 21 June which would be a year since I took the test for MMC. Life is weird.

Fingers crossed for you OP! ❤️🌈

I'm in a similar situation I had a miscarriage in August at 10 weeks but probably lost it earlier. Another miscarriage in December at 9 weeks but the pregnancy was developing slowly and never got past 6 weeks.
I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago. I didn't have my period again so I approached the epu last week about dating and progesterone. They measured my HCG and it was 6 figures! I had a scan the next day and I was 8 weeks and 3 days so already further along than my last pregnancy ever got and I suspect the pregnancy in the summer.
I have my booking appointment next week. It's a nervy wait for the 12 week scan but I have my fingers crossed!

I am sorry for your loss
I got pg 1 week after a mmc with surgical intervention.
How do you manage the anxiety? You don't unfortunately but DD is 20 now and awesome so while it was hard it turned out ok

Sorry for your loss.

I had a mmc in April 2022, I didn’t see it coming when I went to a private scan at 9 weeks because I had symptoms, no bleeding or cramps.

I concieved again 2.5 months after the surgery. It all worked out well the second time and I now have an almost 2yr old. What I would say though is I spent the first stage and even up until 20 weeks being quite pessimistic that it would end again. Partly to protect myself.

Im pregnant again for a third time, currently 32 weeks. Even though I have my son I was still anxious in the first trimester due to that first mmc. I became positive sooner with this pregnancy though, I felt movements from 18 weeks this time and that helped.

Good luck and I hope it all goes well. I do understand the anxiety and worry though. Also not being able to trust your body due to the mmc.

I got pregnant a week after and am coming up to 23 weeks, I just try to take it a day at a time and keep fairly busy. Best of luck with your pregnancy x

Thank you all so much for sharing your experiences, and for your well wishes.
I suppose all we can do is take each day as it comes, which is going to be hard for me because I’m both impatient and a planner😂