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Anxiety and wait for next growth scan. No heartbeat

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CMJJ · 23/02/2025 08:45

I just wanted to reach out to anyone who may be in the same position as me waiting to see if their pregnancy is viable. I went for an early private reassurance scan, knowing my dates I knew I was 6 weeks+4 days. I was only measuring at 5 weeks, there was a yolk sac but no fetal pole. 11 days later I had a second scan at EPU which showed I was now measuring at 6 weeks, (but my GA was now 8+2 )and there was a baby in the sac now but still no heartbeat. There was some growth but it’s still not as it should be. Leaving and not being told if it’s viable or not has been torture. I have to wait another week to see if there is a heartbeat. Babys CRL was measuring 4.7, and the NHS has a CRL guideline of baby measuring 7mm with no heartbeat before they can say it’s a miscarriage/non viable pregnancy. I’m totally prepared for a miscarriage because it seems being a week or 2 behind isn't normal. They told me to forget my GA, even thought I’m sure of dates they are now using the scan measurement to track growth. Also measuring at 6 weeks and still no heartbeat is a cause for concern so I know it’s not normal. My nausea has almost gone now too. Seeing growth in the scan but not enough growth surely leads to miscarriage doesn’t it? I’ve had no cramps and no bleeding. My mind has been racing for 2 weeks and I’m devastated and the anxiety of not knowing for another week is killing me. How do we cope when in limbo like this? Has anyone been in a similar situation to me.
thanks for taking the time to read this. Just in total despair xxx

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Blue2020 · 23/02/2025 09:12

How certain of the dates are you? Tracked ovulation?

I didn’t have an early scan until 9+0 so mine was a bit more obvious when she said it was 6+2 with a fetal pole but no heartbeat. I then went to epu, they didn’t classify it as a miscarriage on the first scan and I had to wait 2+ weeks. I had no bleeding/cramping and still even had pregnancy symptoms until 9.5 weeks. I started to finally bleed and miscarry at 11.5 weeks, then had the surgery option for retained products 4.5 weeks after that.

I did then conceive my son three months later, ironically he was born 5 weeks early on the exact date that I went for that private scan.

Good luck and I hope the wait goes quickly for you.

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CMJJ · 23/02/2025 09:19

I’m certain of dates. I tracked it all. I also did ovulation tests and have photos of my LH peak. I also had a positive test 10 days dpo. So my dates are correct. I’m measuring small and my symptoms are less than before but my belly is huge!

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rainbowstardrops · 23/02/2025 09:20

I'm sorry I have no words of advice but really feel for you Flowers

AmberNewt · 23/02/2025 11:39

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. I went through something very similar last year and the limbo is awful.

I had a scan around 6+2 and they could see a gestational sac and yolk sac but no fetal pole. They said I could just be a bit behind in my dates and to come back in 2 weeks. Went back in 2 weeks and the gest sac had grown significantly but there was still no fetal pole. By this point I was measuring around 2 weeks behind so knew it was over but they refused to call it as the sac had grown. They were really apologetic in fairness but asked me to come back in another week.

I went back and they could see the start of something in the sac, but they weren't sure if it was something breaking down or a fetal pole. I did say surely it would be too far behind to be viable which they agreed with but again, they couldn't call it because technically there had been some changes. I went back a week later (had started brown spotting by this point so knew that was it) and they confirmed it had started to breakdown and could call it a miscarriage.

It was so frustrating, I felt like I was in limbo for 4 weeks and I actually felt relief at the final appointment that they could finally say it was over and I wouldn't have to go back. I started medical management a couple of days later and passed all the tissue.

I totally understand they need these processes in place because I read loads of stories on here/elsewhere where people had been measuring behind and then caught up. But when you're stuck waiting then it's just awful. I think all you can do is one day at a time - I used to come up with a new thing everyday that I was looking forward to when it was over and tell my partner.

Really feel for you - I hope you get good news at your next scan, but an answer if not ❤️

Pinkflamingo77 · 23/02/2025 13:05

I went through the same thing a couple of weeks ago- had a private scan at 7+2 and was measuring 6+2, went back at 8+5 and minimal growth and still no heartbeat so I’m having a medically managed miscarriage this weekend. It’s devastating but it was the reason we had the scan - to know as soon as possible if the pregnancy was non viable. We’re trying to look to the future and stay positive.
To answer your question about how to cope with the wait, I was lucky enough to be super busy with a new job so I would say try to schedule in as many things as possible to occupy your mind.
I’ve seen plenty of women say they measured a week behind in early pregnancy and then the baby caught up so don’t lose heart yet.
let us know how your next scan goes x

Applecrumble9 · 23/02/2025 13:28

CMJJ · 23/02/2025 08:45

I just wanted to reach out to anyone who may be in the same position as me waiting to see if their pregnancy is viable. I went for an early private reassurance scan, knowing my dates I knew I was 6 weeks+4 days. I was only measuring at 5 weeks, there was a yolk sac but no fetal pole. 11 days later I had a second scan at EPU which showed I was now measuring at 6 weeks, (but my GA was now 8+2 )and there was a baby in the sac now but still no heartbeat. There was some growth but it’s still not as it should be. Leaving and not being told if it’s viable or not has been torture. I have to wait another week to see if there is a heartbeat. Babys CRL was measuring 4.7, and the NHS has a CRL guideline of baby measuring 7mm with no heartbeat before they can say it’s a miscarriage/non viable pregnancy. I’m totally prepared for a miscarriage because it seems being a week or 2 behind isn't normal. They told me to forget my GA, even thought I’m sure of dates they are now using the scan measurement to track growth. Also measuring at 6 weeks and still no heartbeat is a cause for concern so I know it’s not normal. My nausea has almost gone now too. Seeing growth in the scan but not enough growth surely leads to miscarriage doesn’t it? I’ve had no cramps and no bleeding. My mind has been racing for 2 weeks and I’m devastated and the anxiety of not knowing for another week is killing me. How do we cope when in limbo like this? Has anyone been in a similar situation to me.
thanks for taking the time to read this. Just in total despair xxx

I went through similar. First scan before 6 weeks I was measuring a couple of days behind, seen yolk sac, no fetal pole, no heartbeat but as I was so early they said that wasn't a concern, they said both sacs were measuring a good size and shape and HCG was quite high. Waited 2 weeks, went back could see heartbeat and see the baby but i was measuring a week behind, told to come back in 10 days to check progress and unfortunately the heartbeat had stopped. It is so heartbreaking. I hope you have a different outcome and everything works out OK. Sending you well wishes and hugs xx

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