Success stories after complicated pregnancies

[SophieRules]

I am pregnant after a loss, 22 weeks and there has been lots of struggles during this pregnancy, including bleeding, pain and some questionable scan results. I’m starting to feel depressed about how stressful this pregnancy is and seem to be surrounded by women with straightforward ones or women who have had babies who say how great they felt during the second trimester. I am taking it one day at a time but finding it harder and harder and feel said that I can’t enjoy this pregnancy. Just looking for some kind words/advice really. I don’t feel like I know anyone that can empathise.

I'm really sorry for your loss. It sounds like you're having a really tough time medically in this pregnancy alongside the complex feelings which come with pregnancy after loss.

I had a stillbirth and have since had a living child, currently pregnant for the third time. It really is tough and everyone's responses are so individual, everything you feel is valid.

I hope you are getting additional support and feel the care from the hospital is helpful. Do you have any support from a bereavement midwife or similar? Our local Sands group has a pregnancy after loss group which I find really helpful to meet with others who 'get it' but appreciate different supports work for different people.

I do my best to go from appointment to appointment and focus on the day/week that is ahead, that can be easier said than done but find it less overwhelming that way.

Really hope that things settle medically in your pregnancy soon. Take care.

I am so sorry for the loss you have suffered, I can only imagine the anxiety you must feel being pregnant again after that.

I just wanted to come on and say that pregnancy is no walk in the park, the ones that 'sail through' are the exception rather than the rule.

It's my second pregnancy now and both have been completely different but very tough in their own ways. The second trimester 'glow' is a complete myth, I struggle most days and there have been complications in both pregnancies but DD1 is now a healthy 4.5 year old and I'm 35 weeks with DD2.

It's good advice from pp to just try and focus on one day at a time.