Anxious about plus size pregnancy after loss

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Hi everyone 34 years old recently found out I am pregnant I suffer with anxiety as it is have very much liked the idea of another baby been with my bf 4 years he is the love of my life always spoke about children but couldn’t fully decide so left it open he is currently out of work but has over 100k in savings so hopefully we would be able to get a mortgage or somewhere bigger to rent as current home not being big enough is something that contributes to my anxiety & worry we won’t be able to get a mortgage or bigger home.

DD is 10 I worry she will be unhappy about me having another baby & will feel left out where she has to spend some nights at her dads in the week when I work nights & has voiced she doesn’t want any siblings.

My biggest worry however is I am 16 stone was trying to loose weight & was taking Monjaro / swimming every day & although I have lost 2 stone so far I did not want to be this size & pregnant especially as my last pregnancy I miscarried at 23 weeks & had preeclampsia with my DD who was born 41 weeks.
In all honesty it’s causing a lot of anxiety over the viability of the pregnancy & has me questioning maybe I shouldn’t go through with it in fear of complications. I was initially excited & happy but I keep thinking about what happened before & it’s making me terrified & question the whole thing.

Have you had any counselling? I would recommend some. Also you are doing well with the healthy lifestyle changes. I've had a second trimester loss so I know that utter shock. The anxiety and fear over a another pregnancy will probably never go away. But having the right support can help.

Hi yes I had counselling last year I found it extremely helpful actually training to be a counsellor myself just finished my level 2 .. So the centre I was going to for counselling closed recently but the counsellor I was seeing said I can see her at her practice so I plan to book in again with her your reply has confirmed to me that i definitely should see her again thanks & I am so sorry you went through that awful experience too. It really brings it all back being pregnant again.

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hello, I am sorry for your previous loss. I too have just discovered I am 6 weeks pregnant and although I tried I am still 15 stone and ideally should be 9/10! I am anxious this is my first pregnancy.
I will discuss it with the midwife next week but I am just trying my best to now be healthy and look after myself for baby. I think its all we can do.
Happ to be your buddy through this x

Hey, I’m plus size and pregnant, currently 31 weeks and I’ve had the easiest pregnancy so far. I’ve had no judgement from any medical professionals, there’s just additional scans, meds (higher dose of folic acid and aspirin for me) and I had to do the glucose tolerance test (I was negative). Try not to worry too much, stay active as much as you can and eat well and all will be well, that’s all you can do! I’ve maintained my exercise schedule and I continue to eat nutritious food and I’ve enjoyed every moment of my pregnancy (even the initial sickness!)

My birth choices are more limited but that’s truly the only downside I’ve experienced thus far. Dr Sarah Wickham has some great information regarding plus size pregnancy that I really recommend!

Feel free to ask any questions and best of luck.

I'm plus sized and currently pregnant with my second DC. I'm heavier than you. My previous pregnancy was uncomplicated and so is this one (so far!).

Being overweight will increase your risk of certain things but most plus sized pregnancies are uncomplicated.

I've never had an issue with high blood pressure, gestational diabetes etc. The only impact it has had on my birth choices is that I cannot have a water birth (in hospital anyway).

Please don't fixate on it!