Is this a normal thing to ask a pregnant lady?

[annes1999]

I have a bit of an odd friend. I say friend, more of a mutual. Anyway I've recently announced I'm pregnant and she has been asking me every question under the sun about me being pregnant. Which I think is fine as perhaps she's curious. However, I really feel she has over stepped the mark and I'm disgusted with her recent questions. I'm a first time mum, 10 weeks pregnant, and these questions really threw me off.

Firstly she wanted to know everything including how the baby was made (?). But now, she's asked me have I considered there's a likelihood that me or my baby will die in labour, and have I instructed my partner / family as to who to save.

She has also asked me about who will be making my medical decisions for me if I were to die.

Why on earth would anyone ask a pregnant first time mum to be that? The thought had not crossed my mind and now I'm stressed out.

She has never wanted kids, I always have and it has been known. But she is one of them - I bought a house, she bought a bigger house. I bought a dog, she bought two. I'm unsure if she's just jealous that I'm starting a family and she can't afford to, or if she is trying to scare the sh*t out of me?

Is that a normal question or are my hormones through the roof right now?

Does she not know the facts of life?!

Just tell her you find that kind of talk upsetting or tell her to fuck off if you aren't bothered about the relationship.

Those are not normal questions. And if it comes down to "who to save" (it won't) doctors take the decision not your partner.

She sounds utterly bizarre. People do overstep a bit more when you’re pregnant it’s true but this is above and beyond that. How baby was made?! Did no one have ‘the chat’ with her as a kid?
Also, who to save, what rubbish. That’s not a decision for you or your partner anyway!
Try not to dwell on it.

She sounds… weird.
I wouldn’t be having anymore conversations with her.

Thanks for your reply and for the information! I did think what an utterly bizarre thing to ask and I was then thinking the worst. As a first time mum you just have no clue what to expect and I genuinely hadn't thought anything like that until she said it to me.
Glad to know the doctors will deal with everything.
Just so beyond sick in the head to ask a woman that.
Thanks again.

I’d give her a very wide berth until after you’ve had the baby.

Avoid her - she sounds batshit! Totally not normal things to ask!

That is awful! Avoid her, she sounds like an attention seeker. If she catches you off guard with an inappropriate question again have a stock response ready like “why on earth would you say something like that?” and walk away.

No, her questions are not normal at all!
-Does she have special needs?
-Did she ask other, unfiltered questions before you were pregnant or does she others about their death plans?
-Has she lost someone that was pregnant?
-What do YOU get out of this mutual acquaintance??? I suspect- nothing!

I'd be keeping clear, TBH, and if she says anything, tell her that her prying questions are hurtful and upsetting.