First trimester

sotired11 · 2025-02-16T23:23:07+00:00

I feel guilty saying this but not coping at all with the first trimester can't eat sick all the time no tablets work constantly tired I feel very unwell it's making me depressed really bad tonight I just burst out crying I'm to embarrassed to ask for help because people will think I'm lazy I'm not full term pregnant but honestly I would rather be doing the night feeds than feeling like this I feel like there's a thick sheet in between me and the world and no one around me understands!

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AHBM2020 · 17/02/2025 02:15

My first trimester SUCKED. I was basically bed bound 6-9 weeks of pregnancy. Most days I couldn't eat a single thing, my partner would buy dominos and McDonald's and I couldn't even cope 😭 I felt so pathetic and lonely. I was so scared that this was going to be my life, 9 months of being stuck in my bed. I had to stop working because of it, which made me feel like even more of a failure as some women work their entire pregnancy. But I realised every woman is different, some get sick, some don't at all. Once I got to 10 weeks, the sickness started to fade and I was actually able to leave the bed and go outside. I'm now 12 weeks, and apart from feeling a bit tired sometimes and a random urge to throw up, I'm back my usual self.

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sotired11 · 17/02/2025 07:21

AHBM2020 · 17/02/2025 02:15

My first trimester SUCKED. I was basically bed bound 6-9 weeks of pregnancy. Most days I couldn't eat a single thing, my partner would buy dominos and McDonald's and I couldn't even cope 😭 I felt so pathetic and lonely. I was so scared that this was going to be my life, 9 months of being stuck in my bed. I had to stop working because of it, which made me feel like even more of a failure as some women work their entire pregnancy. But I realised every woman is different, some get sick, some don't at all. Once I got to 10 weeks, the sickness started to fade and I was actually able to leave the bed and go outside. I'm now 12 weeks, and apart from feeling a bit tired sometimes and a random urge to throw up, I'm back my usual self.

Thank you this gives me so much hope and my partner order a treat and I am the same can't bare it I hope it gets better for me too at my wits end if this carries on luckily I have gotten sick notes to work from home but even working from home is too much !! Just praying next week my 9th week is ok I go on holiday for my daughters birthday last thing I want to do is be bed bound abroad

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Fluffydino21 · 17/02/2025 11:27

I have felt the same for so much of the first trimester (and I'm still only 9 weeks). I'm so behind with work, house is grim, and I sleep more than 13 hours per day.

To me, this has just been like being hungover EVERY DAY since a couple of weeks into the pregnancy.

I wish women talked more honestly about this as I honestly had no idea to expect this, and I think its very common.

Straightomyhead · 17/02/2025 12:01

I have had very similar with my second pregnancy and just feeling better at 12 weeks. This is the most definitely the worst part of pregnancy for me and for many others.

When I was pregnant with my ds I had awful hip and rib part after 34 weeks but the sickness and tiredness is still way worse for me. It's the fact you aren't visibly pregnant and aren't sharing it widely at this stage so don't the help when needed. People were so kind to me when I was in pain with my first but I also needed it during both first trimesters.

Just think this too will pass. Mostly it passes after the first trimester but even if it is longer then it will also pass at some point. Only a small positive but it really helped me see the sickness through

Hrf1503 · 17/02/2025 20:16

I found pregnancy the most awful experience, so sick for 4+ months I could barely function and was borderline depressed. Then I got sciatica in trimester 2 so it didn’t get much better. And here I am doing it all over again with no2… fortunately out of first trimester now but the tiredness continues to be soul destroying. I know you’ve said pills didn’t work but the first ones I was on (cyclizine) did fuck all and it wasn’t until they put me on Promethazine that I stopped throwing up multiple times a day - although it doesn’t get rid of the debilitating nausea.

The best thing I can say is newborn phase was much much better than pregnancy for me. I hope it gets better for you soon.

Straightomyhead · 17/02/2025 20:42

Hrf1503 · 17/02/2025 20:16

I found pregnancy the most awful experience, so sick for 4+ months I could barely function and was borderline depressed. Then I got sciatica in trimester 2 so it didn’t get much better. And here I am doing it all over again with no2… fortunately out of first trimester now but the tiredness continues to be soul destroying. I know you’ve said pills didn’t work but the first ones I was on (cyclizine) did fuck all and it wasn’t until they put me on Promethazine that I stopped throwing up multiple times a day - although it doesn’t get rid of the debilitating nausea.

The best thing I can say is newborn phase was much much better than pregnancy for me. I hope it gets better for you soon.

So sorry you are going through it as well. I'm on my second and I've just decided my body isn't very good at pregnancy.

I did love the newborn phase though and my little boy is a dream. I'm much like you and fighting through this part

AHBM2020 · 22/02/2025 01:46

Fluffydino21 · 17/02/2025 11:27

I have felt the same for so much of the first trimester (and I'm still only 9 weeks). I'm so behind with work, house is grim, and I sleep more than 13 hours per day.

To me, this has just been like being hungover EVERY DAY since a couple of weeks into the pregnancy.

I wish women talked more honestly about this as I honestly had no idea to expect this, and I think its very common.

I had a huge bout of tiredness too, from about 6-10 weeks I slept an ungodly amount. Id get to about 5/6pm, and I'd be like a slug. I'd go to sleep, and wake up the next day at about 11am. Rinse and repeat. I was pretty much only awake for a few hours 😂 I woke up one evening freaking out to my partner as I'd slept 16 straight hours 😂

Lifeissodifficult · 22/02/2025 01:53

At the time it was absolutely the pits.

I was so miserable with feeling so awful.

But iv since learnt there are much worse things in life x

Sarahbelle25 · 22/02/2025 02:00

I haven't been pregnant In almost 13 years, although I might be now which is why I'm on here, but wow the first trimester sucked with both children, the second one it gets easier I promise. Just look after you during the first because it's not easy.

JC89 · 22/02/2025 02:12

The first trimester was easily the worst bit of pregnancy for me. I had 4 weeks off with my first and 3 weeks off with my last, but at the end I kept going beyond 38 weeks both times. There were days with first when I would lie on the sofa all day and still be wanting to go to bed at 7. It's hard when it feels like there is so far to go, but for a lot of women it does get better after the first trimester so fingers crossed for you!