TW: possible miscarriage/ ectopic

[Annonymousg]

Hi all. Just looking for some advice/personal experiences. I had a MMC at the end of sept which resulted in surgery. I have recently found out that I’m expecting again. My anxiety is all over the place due to previous loss. I have had hardly any symptoms except for tiredness and sore breasts, which is weird for me as in all previous pregnancies (2 successful) I had HG. I had very light spotting 3 nights ago, with some slight niggles/sharp pains on my left side. Not constant pain just every now again. The bleeding had stopped within 2/3hours. Went to doctors yesterday and everything seemed fine my Hcg levels were at 3700 and something, but I’ve done a clear blue weeks indicator twice since yesterday and is still showing 2-3 weeks. It has been like that now for 9 days. Strip tests are still showing really strong positives, it I just really don’t know what to do. I feel like my body is failing but can’t get the doctors to listen to me and I’m so scared of losing this one as well, I think I am but I’m trying to stay positive. Any help and advice would be great, thank you :)

Hi @Annonymousg I am pregnant after an ectopic a couple of years ago, and also found the anxiety very very difficult. It’s getting better as time goes on but I really sympathise with you.

Although everyone is different, I found I had quite strong pains and a lot of red bleeding with my ectopic, also my hcg levels rose very slowly, and stopped doubling at about 5 weeks.

I do understand the fear, just try and remember that you don’t need to worry unless you have real reasons to (lots of red bleeding, severe pain etc). I have found that paying for early private scans was very helpful - are you over 6 weeks? It might be worth looking into that if you can. Very best of luck xx

@Triselly thank you so much for your reply. I’ve not had much bleeding tbh, it was just very light spotting with the pains in my left side. I’m just more worried that when I’m doing the clear blue weeks indicator test is still hasn’t gone up to 3+ weeks after 9/10 days of testing 2-3 weeks. I have an early scan tomorrow at the early pregnancy unit so hoping to get some good news but it’s proving very hard to stay positive right now. I will be 6 weeks on Saturday, I did already have a private scan booked in for next Wednesday before all of this happened. Congratulations on your pregnancy as well xx

@Annonymousg very best of luck today - let me know how it goes if you would like to! I have also had spotting and bleeding - the spotting was at about 5 weeks and seemed to be in line with when my period would have been due, I have heard this is very common. The bleeding was very scary and at 9 weeks, and was caused by a low lying placenta but in both cases everything was absolutely fine, in spite of my fear and stress levels!

I really wouldn’t go by pregnancy tests to monitor your pregnancy, I had the same thing and was going crazy comparing each one to the next. But as they say, they are not designed for monitoring, just to confirm pregnancy and can be affected by so many different things. So I know it’s hard but they really aren’t accurate enough to be worrying about. Good luck today xx