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Need advice before I go insane.

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Mumtobe2025xx · 04/02/2025 09:16

Hi everyone, I’m never someone to usually turn to pages like this but I just feel so lonely and have no one to talk to about this. Me and my partner have been on and off for only a year and I ended up seeing a guy on the 3rd of August and slept with him. By slept with him I mean it literally lasted 30 seconds before I thought no I don’t wanna be doing this. Me and my partner got back together about 2/3 days later and I never mentioned it to him. I came on my period on the 14th of August which was around I was due anyway. On the 13th of September I was due for my period that day but felt odd so did a test and the test said 1-2 weeks pregnant. Me and my partner were over the moon and we’ve literally bought everything but now I’m 24 weeks and I have a whole load of guilt wondering if this could possibly be the other guys. I don’t know who to talk to who to trust so I really am asking for abit of help and advice please!

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SC2025 · 04/02/2025 09:32

Hi OP

Am I right in thinking you had a period after you slept with the other guy? If so, and I’m not expert, I imagine it isn’t his baby?

Did you have sex with your partner after your last period before finding out you were pregnant?

Brbreeze · 04/02/2025 09:36

Presumably you have had a dating scan at around 12 weeks? That will have confirmed it will be your partners baby. It will have been very obvious on ultrasound measurements at that point if you were 4 weeks further along than you expected.

Downbadatthegym · 04/02/2025 09:38

By my calculations if you had a period mid July you would have been 8 weeks pregnant when you tested if it was the other guys. You add two weeks on as the pregnancy is counted from the first day of your last period (is that right?) so if you were four weeks (getting 1-2 weeks on a clear blue would indicate you were) it is definitely your partners baby.

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Mumtobe2025xx · 04/02/2025 09:52

Hi, yes I had sex with my partner after my period in August. I know how it sounds because I have had a period since that guy but I think where these literally like 3 weeks between it it’s panicking me abit.

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Bex101990 · 05/02/2025 06:47

If you slept with other guy on 3rd August and then had a period 2 weeks later it definitely isn’t his, it’s your partners. Congratulations! I hope your pregnancy goes well :)

sel2223 · 05/02/2025 06:49

What is your official due date OP? Maybe we could help work out approx conception date......

mushroomushroom · 05/02/2025 07:40

If you slept with the guy and it lasted thirty seconds (ie he didn't ejaculate), and you had a period after like normal, then I think you can stop worrying that the baby might not be your partners.

It's guilt that's making you feel like that. If you don't want to bother telling your boyf then I would find a therapist and have a session or two to talk about the guilt and get it out. You were broken up, it's not possible that the baby is the other guys, you don't need to be feeling guilty. You haven't done anything wrong xxx

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Mumtobe2025xx · 09/02/2025 20:12

Hi thank you for commenting it has made me feel a lot better, my due date is 26/05/2025. I kept telling myself I’m silly especially as I had a period 2 weeks after at the time I was due and it was just a normal period I do just think it is the guilt eating me up and I don’t want to speak to friends and family about it so I would rather them not know hence why I came on here, thanks guys xxx

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CC222 · 09/02/2025 20:16

I think the anxiety and worry you're feeling is natural because even when in your rational mind you can say it's not the other guys, we feel all kinds of irrational worry when pregnant. As you had a period after that guy, the baby isn't his. Please don't let this worry take up anymore space in your mind. Congratulations and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy x

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Mumtobe2025xx · 11/02/2025 07:37

I think what it is as well, my due date is the 26th of May so today officially I am 25 weeks and 1 day so when I go back 25 weeks and 1 day it says the 19th of August but how is that possible if I was on my period from the 14th of August til the 18th of August (I’ve always had 4/5 day periods) just confusing me a lot x

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PotaytoPotahhto · 11/02/2025 07:41

So the number of weeks pregnant you are starts from your last period. So essentially, when you were 2 weeks pregnant, you weren’t even pregnant at all but it’s still counted.

If your due date is 26 May, you would have conceived around 2 September.

sel2223 · 11/02/2025 08:12

As above, don't forget the 2 weeks added on at the beginning as it's counted from the beginning of the cycle.

For estimated conception, count back 38 weeks from the official due date given at your dating scan.

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Mumtobe2025xx · 11/02/2025 13:48

Thanks guys that’s really helped me out I think it is just guilt , when I feel like guilty again I’ll just come on here and re read. You’ve all put it into perspective for me and I always get confused how they work out your pregnant and how far along you are xx

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