Running on no sleep in hospital after c section help

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Hi guys
had my twins on 30th
still in hospital due to my blood pressure being high
I can self discharge with medication but they still want to monitor me?
i haven’t slept since night before my c section
I’ve had about 3 hours sleep through power napping since then
my partner is staying with me as twins cry every time we put them down
apperently he is not allowed to leave with the twins and I stay for my high blood pressure?!
we both are running on no sleep.
we’ve been on loud ward with everyone else baby crying. Been given our own room which is helping with being more relaxed but babies still won’t settle here

The torture of the maternity ward. The irony is being sleep deprived can make your blood pressure go up. It’d make far more sense for you to get a solid sleep rather than filling you with labetol. I don’t really have any good advice. I had twins and found it incredibly hard they would not sleep at the same time. Are you bottle feeding there might be a kindly midwife who’d be willing to take them for a few hours at night.

Handhold OP, it truly gets easier once you're home.

If you can, try and take shifts of sleep. Even just an hour will help you feel a little more human. Is there any family you can have visit you tomorrow to hold the babies while you sleep a little?

Ask if you can have a private room? I had one when I had my 3rd and it was brilliant!

I was breastfeeding and my little bugger 3rd baby would not sleep!! One night a kindly midwife took him to let me get some sleep. Shortly after, a reg doctor pronounced what a beautiful baby he was, woke him, and I got him back!!!!

How can I get through more days of no sleep?
my blood pressure isn’t going down?
would you self discharge?
we will manage much better at home on shifts then being here but same hand worried about my blood pressure ?!

The fucking maternity ward... if there is a helli firmly believe it has a maternity ward.

My advice is say YES to whatever they want, get discharged and get the fuck out and back to your own home asap so you can get some sleep.

Crying a lot may help you get a private room. I was declined both times.

Both times discharge was a mess so i had all my things packed and basically said i HAVE to leave now so get me whatever meds i jeed as doscharge was supposed to be at 2 and now its 7pm

Edit:
Do you have a BP cuff at home? If not get one on amazon they are about £30

What medical treatment are you actually receiving beyond an hcp taking your BP and oxygen every few hours?

You poor, poor thing. Just do whatever they say and beg for a room. I had twins and it is a lot.

I have my own room from few hours ago. I wanted to self discharge but they scared me about my blood pressure that could be pre eclampsia. If not monitored well I could have a fit or seaUzuire. Now in my own room I feel a lot more confident on looking after the twins alone. My partner currently snoozing while I’m on a night feed. Once it’s done I’ll wake him up so I can try get an hour as twin 2 isn’t letting us put him down. Once morning I think I’ll send my partner home to get a longer sleep. At least he is rested for when he comes back. I literally can’t keep my eyes open.

Glad you got a private room - that will make it easier....

Love to dream swaddles are good for newborns (check vinted its way cheaper than new) in terms of getting them to lie in a basinette. Also can the midwives swaddle them for you?

What i would say is if you dont just start getting them swaddled and used to lying down you will make a bit of a rod for your own back as contact naps were hard work with my oldest and there was only one! So for no2 i use love2dream and got baby used to being okay both held and in a basinette. It was great as i had a lot more "freedom" to get stuff done as wasnt "naptrapped"

OP, kindly, prioritise yourself. You've had major surgery and you need sleep the most out of the the two of you.

Wonderful he is getting some rest now, but then make sure he is there and you can get as much help and sleep as possible.

Speaking as someone who also sent their husband home when I was chronically sleep deprived with my DD!

Hi blood pressure can be deadly so I would stay there. I had twins prem and slept for 1hr per day in hospital for a week. Trust me you get used to no sleep.

Please don’t discharge yourself, high blood pressure can be really dangerous so you’re in the best place.

does the ward have a nursery? You could always ask and see if the staff can take the babies for a bit so you can rest.

Currently on a night feed myself, with you in solidarity!

It's so hard OP, I feel for you.

It sounds like you need to stay in to get your blood pressure sorted. All of this will be more stressful if you discharge yourself and then become more unwell.

It sounds like you are bottlefeeding?

If so, do you have any friends or family who can come to the hospital tomorrow for a few yours to give you both a break? Even better if they can bring eye masks and ear plugs for you to be able to sleep as well as you can then too.

I would continue this for a few hours a day until you are discharged. And if someone can do this at home for you too at the beginning, all the better.

Thinking of you.

Ah OP it’s so tough. My twins are three months old now. We were in hospital for three days and I remember it felt completely unmanageable.
Is your partner not allowed to stay because you’re in your own room? Mine was.
It does get easier when you are home so just hold onto that thought.

Definitely do shifts, our twins wouldn’t let us put them down for the first 8 weeks so we did shifts holding them. It felt never ending and relentless but it does end!! I promise. We are now down to one night wake and getting lots of sleep and everything feels brighter and easier. Hang in there.

Confused as to why they won't 'allow' your husband to take his babies home if that's what you both want , they do not have a say in this they are your children but equally there is no way id of been separated from my babies.
The lack of sleep thing is very tough but you quickly get used to it as you're unlikely to get much more at home especially when your husband paternity ends.
I'd discharge and check BP with a cuff at home

Please don’t discharge yourself. High blood pressure can be dangerous and your babies need you well. Shift work is the way to get through things. One of you is asleep whilst the other is awake. Sending your husband home for a few hours sleep is a good idea and then he can come back and take the twins for a couple of hours to let you sleep. Are you allowed visitors? If so use them to take the babies and they can just walk round and round the ward for a while to give you a sleep.
My sister has twins and it was hard work but you will get into a pattern with them. I know it is difficult but try and look after yourself. When you go home get visitors to take the babies out for a walk for an hour or two to give you some rest. Wrap them up nice and cosy in the pram and they will be fine. Also don’t be shy to ask your family to help with household stuff. I did my sister’s washing for a few weeks to help out as it was one less thing they then had to think about.
Good luck and congratulations

Why is your partner getting chunks of sleep for several hours and you have one hour in between? You are the one recovering from pregnancy and surgery in hospital and you are the one who needs the rest more.

@Completelyjo No he has slept just as much as me, I’m suggesting him going home to get chunks of sleep so I can then sleep at the hospital for chunks

thanks you everyone for commenting and suggesting. I hope today my blood pressure status sorting itself

It really is brutal OP. I'm glad to hear you have a private room.We slept in shifts from the start so I could get some uninterrupted sleep, even 2 hours at a time will help your mental wellbeing.

Don't worry about getting the babies to sleep in a bassinet in the hospital either, mine absolutely would not be put down, and stressing about that will just add to your tiredness.

Once home, continue to focus on getting as much sleep/rest as you can to aid your recovery. Do whatever it takes to facilitate that in the early weeks, whether it's continuing to sleep in shifts or whatever routine works for you all. I don't believe there's such a thing as "making a rod for your own back" when it comes to newborn sleep. The key with twins in the beginning is just to stay sane and that's hard to do on no sleep!

It does get better, twins are such a gift. Congratulations!

Is there a family room on the maternity ward? If so get him to take the babies there for a couple of hours during the day so you can get a bit of uninterrupted sleep. Shifts are usually the way to go in the newborn phase, it’s very common for them to not want to be put down and it’s relentless if you don’t get a bit of a break.

Ah OP, this sounds brutal, you must be absolutely exhausted.

Congratulations on the arrival of your beautiful babies, it will get easier. These first days are always tough but even worse being on a maternity ward and that won't be helping your BP. Hopefully it's a little better now you're in a private room.

I second the above advice about the love 2 dream swaddle sleep sacks - have you tried anything like that? They were a game changer for us.
You don't want to establish this habit of not being able to put them down or it's going to be extremely hard for you with two even when you get home.

So pleased you have a supportive partner.

Best of luck, you're doing a great job mama.

We had to stay in for a week after our twins. Please ask the midwives, ours took ours for a few hours in the night one night and we were able to get some sleep. Felt terrible for asking but they were more than happy to and I needed it. I think i was hallucinating from the lack of sleep! Newborn twins are so so hard as there's 2 of them!!

Have you and friends and family who want to visit? My friend just had a baby and I went to visit and literally Sat in the chair holding her baby whilst she snoozed for a couple hours as she was so broken from lack of sleep. If you have a private room, you can have 2 friends visit who can hold a baby each and tell them to not talk to you or anything just hold babies. Good luck. Mat words are hell

Thank you all for your comments ladies
I managed to get couple hours stretches in during the night . Thank god for this private room I’m so happy they listened to me and gave it!
my partner also managed mini 20 min naps here & there before twin 2 started to cry!
just waiting for doctor to pop to me so I know the plan for the day. My mum will come and take over from my partner so he can leave for some hours and be refreshed for looking after me and the twins incase we’re in another night!
my twin 1 sleeps like a dream. Twin 2 constantly needs picking up putting down crying etc so as long as someone else is here to attend him while I sleep we should manage better. He keeps startling himself with his arms, and scratching his face while sleeping. Inside arm swaddling he hates. So maybe I’ll try the love to dream ?

my blood pressure is not crazy high the midwife has just told me. 144/78, even she is getting annoyed for me that I’m still here
get me home!!

If I stayed on the shared ward last night, for sure me and my partner would have had a breakdown this morning. It’s honestly hell in there

Hopefully that BP means you can go home. The top number is a little high and the bottom is perfect