Constant nausea preventing me from feeling excited... is this normal?

[FunkyPigeon35]

The title says it all really, I'm 14 weeks and feel nauseous ALL THE TIME (trying different meds, none have worked so far). I'm not really enjoying life because of this, and I don't feel excited about the prospect of being a Mum. Even if I make myself think about it, I can't conjure up any positive emotions. All I feel is sick. Did anyone else feel like this? Is it normal? I'm worried it means I don't love my baby enough😥

I sympathise - unless you have experienced it, I don't think anyone can understand the full impact of constantly feeling sick. It is exhausting and physically draining. Hopefully you will start to improve soon - I think 16-20 weeks is often a time when sickness/nausea starts to drop off.

Hopefully it will improve soon have you tried ginger, biscuits worked for me. Tea or capsules.

My eldest is 23 (years not months!) and I still can't face ginger biscuits. They did nothing for me, and just make me feel sick all these years later.

I had terrible sickness in my first pregnancy to the point my body had gone into starvation mode. I went through a load of rubbish travel sickness pills etc before the doctors finally prescribed zofran / ondansetron. It was the only drug that worked for me.

Second pregnancy sickness was solved with a cup of tea before I got out of bed!

Now third time round I felt a bit ill so I went straight to the gp for ondansetron again. Can’t possible raise two kids whilst being sick. Can tell the sickness would be a lot worse without the tablets as I have the urge to vomit between doses.

It is very normal, I had it for many many weeks, it went away for me only when the nausea lifted (approaching the third trimester), I took a lot of different medication none of which was effective, as well as of course the usual recommended things

It's really rubbish. You have my sympathy.

Honestly I think this is totally normal. I felt constantly sick.and miserable for over half my.first pregnancy and I love being a mother. I have felt worse this pregnancy but now I know it is temporary and I'm just trying to get through it. I mainly feel just meh even though I can't wait to meet the baby.
9 months is ages to be excited and in pregnancy it's also find to feel bored or anxious or impatient.

Yeah, I hear you. Awful. Had this in both my pregnancies but much more so with first. Nausea translated to extreme sickness between weeks 12-25 too, so also spent a lot of time in hospital on a drip. I couldn't see past the nausea and sickness and almost felt like I forgot there'd be a baby at the end of it.

But I'm grateful to say that it never impacted how I felt once they were born and being a mother is one of the greatest joys and privileges of my life. Whilst it feels huge now and you can't see beyond how sick you feel, it's not forever and there's light at the end of the tunnel.

Nag your doctor to try different drugs; whilst I never found one that was perfect, finding better ones did help me to some extent.

There used to be an amazingly helpful hyperemesis thread on here that was frequented by some very knowledgeable people; not sure if they're still going but worth searching for the old ones. Good luck @FunkyPigeon35; it is horrible and you have my sympathy. Good luck.

You have my sympathy. I had unrelenting nausea during my first to the point that I had to collapse into bed after work every evening, there was no excitement and actually I felt regret because I felt so awful for so long

Any advice on how to make it more bearable would be appreciated as I'm dreading the same 2nd time round

Thank you so much for sharing, that really means a lot to know you were the same as me but still able to fully love your baby❤️! Im the same I'm so focused on feeling sick I can't really imagine a baby at the end of this!!

I'm so sorry you went through that! I don't really have advice other than keep going back to the gp until they find something that works, im in that process atm.

Dare I ask but do you feel the inability to get excited/happy during pregnancy impacted your relationship with your child once they arrived?

Just thought I’d give you some hope! My sickness was so bad first pregnancy that when my baby came I felt really well rested, happy and look back at the newborn days as being easy!

Just sympathy from me too. I had the constant nauseous until about week 20, then I had low iron so I was really knackered. Didn't really feel any excitement about the baby. She's now an amazing 5 year old who I adore.

I did find that I hadn't really pictured how life with a baby would be though - when she arrived it did knock me sideways somewhat. Honestly, the first few months were really rough. They're just going to be: even with the easiest baby you're sleep deprived, hormonal and knackered. What I found useful was making myself really pay attention when it was good. Keeps you going, and I find now that's what I remember best.

Good luck! There's a lot of fun ahead!

I had constant nausea. Worst I've ever felt in my life. And every time someone suggested ginger I wanted to punch them. By week 18 I had tried every possible remedy, nothing helped.
If anything, it made me feel more excited counting down until I was no longer pregnant and the baby was here. And I felt fantastic when the baby arrived - like a new woman!

Thank you so much! Thats what I needed really just to hear you can feel so miserable/unexcited doing pregnancy but still end up really loving your kid and enjoying being a Mum!❤️ (even though of course it's not perfect)

Whoever said pregnancy makes you glow FFS 🤦‍♀️ I feel like everyday I have a hangover with no let up.
Im exhausted, I want to throw up all the time.
The doctor gave me anti sickness medication which has massively helped and apples seem to cut through the nausea.
I’m finding that if I do a very busy day my exhaustion is insane for days after.
My tits are also heavy and on fire 🔥 I’m bloated and constipated.

Then there’s the anxiety with miscarriages due to my medical history so I cry at every scan and I’m now waiting for the screening bloods results so a bag of nerves.

honestly the whole thing is a rollercoaster which I am not enjoying