Overbearing sister

[MissShelly]

My sister has always nagged me to have a baby, now I'm pregnant she seems to be trying to take over my life and butt in, she's already told me names she wants for my baby, want my baby to dress how she wants it if it's a girl, she's said all pink, flowery and Victorian style all of which I hate! I refused she said she'd have clothes at hers for when she has my baby, I explained I'm exclusively breastfeeding, she said I'll get u a pump so you can express milk for my house! She's said she'll come take the baby whenever she wants. Told me not baby dad that he should stop smoking or baby will get taken from me. I'm super stressed and on edge, it feels like she's after taking over and having my child for herself or am I just super anxious?

You need some distance from your sister.

your sister has problems - make sure you don't spend much time with her

Just say 'You're creeping me out. Have your own baby and call it Florabella-Sophonsiba and dress it in ribboned frocks, if that's your thing.'

Is she 12? Tell her to back the fuck off!

She's projecting on you and she needs to realise that. She wants a baby or a doll of her own to do all those things, but maybe it's not the time for her so she is eager to do it on your baby.

You better set some boundaries early on and make her understand she can love the baby but ultimately you are the parents and you make the decisions, either she likes it or not. And if she keeps behaving like that you won't leave her alone with the baby (I know I wouldn't).

It's really nice that she is excited about being an auntie and wants to take care of the baby, but that's just too much, she needs to tone it down. I'm sure you'll work it out, but you will probably need to put your foot down and find a balance that works for everyone.