I’ve been trying to get pregnant for 3 years, finally pregnant and I’m 8 weeks. My due date happens to fall on an old friends wedding, I saw her last night and let her know that I would be unlikely to attend, this seems the best solution rather than her paying for me and DP a place for us to potentially cancel last minute. She has two children herself (one a baby) and hasn’t even sent invites out yet so I expected understanding. Realistically I see her twice a year. Her hen party is a month before and abroad, it isn’t yet booked so me dropping out isn’t costing anything.
She seemed quite cold in her response when I told her yesterday but I didn’t think too much about it until she messaged today saying I’m really selfish doing this and how I have known when her wedding and hen party would be for months. Apparently they need to change the location of the hen now because they had found a few places based on how many people were attending (but not booked) and she doesn’t understand why I couldn’t have had a couple of weeks off trying so that I could still attend both.
Im really hurt she has responded like this, she knows how hard we’ve found trying to conceive, to suggest we stopped for her wedding seems like a big ask, I just don’t know what to say or do at this point.