Work one, when did you tell the wider team?

[Bessienol]

Hi
I’m 9 weeks pregnant and had two consecutive miscarriages but taking meds this time and my pregnancy so far is progressing 🙏
due to my type of work and supportive boss I told her this past week and she was amazing and we discussed my work/ if I miscarry again/ plan a, b,c which was so helpful.

There is no pressure to tell colleagues but they will guess in the next month as I’m randomly not going on my usual internal business trip which I do several times a year.

my question is when did you tell your team/wider team you were pregnant? Just interested to know what people did

thank you x

I only told work when my line manager called me in to discuss a re-organisation and my future. I asked him if he had noticed I was wearing a loose dress he hadn’t seen before. I was 4 and a half months pregnant. I would have kept it secret for longer if I could. We tried to keep it quiet from everyone as we felt we had broadcast the first pregnancy to soon and too wide.

14 weeks

Last time I told work after my 12 week scan. I didn't want to wait longer because people kept asking me if I was OK and I was fed up of making things up! This time I am somewhere new and people don't know me well so there won't be quite the same drive. Maybe after the 20 week scan? But I do hate keeping it a secret so might not last that long.

When I was 7 months pregnant, I couldn't be arsed with all the fuss.

After the 20wk scan

Why would people guess you're pregnant from not going on a business trip?
Tell them when you want to tell them, it's a big deal for you, it's not a big deal for them.

I think that’s it. I have worked in my current role for nearly six years so I have solid work relationships with my team and if I didn’t I would wait.

I’ve worked out I can last until 14 before it’s obvious I’m not going on my business trip and I’ll probably just say it.
the reason I ask is it shifts not only my work but my teams work due to the nature of of my job.

I certainly wasn’t thinking it’s a big deal. Jeez! 🙄 I was just curious when people felt comfortable telling people at work.

why come on here just to be catty?

Because if I explained my job it would be obvs I was pregnant

@Bessienol Told my boss and her boss at 5 and 6 weeks respectively (my symptoms were a nightmare and I needed a hospital trip). I told a couple of work friends at 13 weeks, after scan, just before Christmas break. Told everyone else in my wider team at 17 weeks when I was back from Christmas - it's been really stressful keeping it quiet (having to bail out of meetings at the last minute because of nausea etc) so it suited me to just tell them. That said, I have a lovely team and we're quite close, so if anything goes wrong at my 20-week scan they're not likely to be weird about it.

And if I had to take time off because something was wrong, I wouldn't have people tying to work out where I'd been. I had a MMC in July during a fortnight I was supposed to be on holiday, and everyone kept asking if I'd had a lovely break and what I'd been up to. Much easier to be out in the open. 😊

I think it ultimately boils down to how close you are to your colleagues and if you want to talk to them about it, or maintain privacy at work.

I told my employer I was having IVF as I didn't want to lie about my reasons for having so many appointments, so they knew pretty much straight away (well, at 7 weeks when I had my viability scan). I told my immediate team when I was about 14 weeks, as they know I like a drink so I was just honest about why I was tee total at the Christmas do! I'm 19 weeks now and I've only just started mentioning it to colleagues beyond my department, in passing. I've started to show now so the gossip machine will inevitably do the work for me at this stage!

Told my manager the week before my 12 week scan because I was starting to have appointments and things that I couldn’t keep explaining away. Not sure how I lasted that long as I was a mess. Told the immediate team after the scan.
Let the news spread further organically, or as it became apparent.
I was showing at 16 weeks and clearly pregnant so getting to 20 weeks wasn’t an option unfortunately.
Literally tested positive with baby 2 this week and as a second I’m likely to show sooner if it progresses according to plan. Going to tell my immediate manager in the next couple of weeks as we have a good relationship and whatever happens I will need his support either way, but I will ask to keep it from the team until I’ve either had my 12 week scan or a private scan at 8 weeks. Not sure. May depend on symptoms.

I told my manager (who is absolutely useless and no support whatsoever) after we'd had our 12 weeks scan and screening results purely because he would have to reorganise the team whilst on maternity leave and I knew he'd need a lot of coaching and hand holding to actually do it.

I never told my wider team as I'd planned to tell them after our 20 week scan. I lost my son at 19 weeks and only told them what had happened when I got back. I'd had two miscarriages before and didn't want to discuss it with anyone at work. It's not their business. I didn't used to be so cold about it, but three tragedies in a row have ruined pregnancy for me, so I'll never tell anyone who doesn't 100% need to know now.

I told my manager really early - 6 or 7 weeks I think, as I figured if there was a problem and needed time off it would be easier to sort. But I also know from a previous loss and from working with him that he would be supportive and happy for me so wouldn't cause any issues. Due to my previous loss I had an early anomaly scan at 17 weeks, so I told my wider team after that (although a fair number had guessed given I hadn't been drinking 😆)

we didn’t tell anyone until after our 12 week scan, I wanted actual physical proof I was pregnant before telling people. 😂

I work in an urgent care ward and we have all sorts of contagious illnesses through the doors. I told my immediate supervisor when I found out at 6 weeks and she made some subtle changes to my working conditions. Once I got to about 20 weeks and it became more noticeable I told my team x