I don’t really believe I’m pregnant at 3 months

[Redribbonssay]

Hello

I’m currently about 14 weeks pregnant, I’ve had scans at 8 weeks and 12 week scan last week, all looking normal. I felt excited between 8-12 week scans (as well as extremely nervous, googling and on pregnancy threads here constantly), but now I feel flat and I just don’t really believe I’m pregnant. It doesn’t feel real, I feel like it’s not really true and I’m not really going to have a baby. My DP is reassuring me and logically says it’s the worry and anxiety about whether everything will be ok, plus practicalities like we’re buying a house and it’s our first child so all feels a bit unknown…which I totally get but I feel so numb.

Has anyone else felt this? Did it get better?

Thank you

This is the limbo period. Between 12-20 weeks there isn’t a lot going on so it doesn’t feel real.
once your bump pops and you have the anatomy scan it may feel a lot different. Definitely once you start feeling movement

That first bit where there’s nothing you can do or feel is a bit weird. When you start feeling the baby moving and you get a bump it becomes a lot more real.

@Redribbonssay I get periods of this, it comes in waves. I'm 17+4 and still don't have a bump. Tbh aside from complete aversion to hot drinks, water and Shreddies and occasional retching and twinges in my legs I feel completely fine. My husband's doing a lot of research and I just don't really feel like any of it is happening to me. It's bizarre. I'm happy to be pregnant but also get a bit numb about it. Like it's happening to someone else?

I think it will pass when I feel baby kick/get a bump. 🤞🏼

Someone above described it as 'the limbo period' and that's so true...... it's that time where there's a long wait between scans, symptoms start to subside, no movements yet and no real bump. I definitely had days like this where I just didn't feel pregnant at all.

I'm now 30 weeks with DD2 and I absolutely do feel pregnant now (and not in a good way!)

Thanks all. Yes @OptimisticRealist2024 that’s exactly how I’m feeling and DP is also doing lots of research and keeps talking about prams to me! Hopefully when there is obvious bump and kicks there will seem like physical “proof” there is something there!

Im 14 weeks and apart from some bloating and needing to wee a lot, I really don't feel anything. I also share the feeling mentioned above that it's like it is happening to someone else. It's almost like when the conversation of having a baby comes up, it's like in 6 months' time someone will hand one over to me 😂. In the first few weeks of pregnancy, being pregnant was all I could think about. Now, the periods of not thinking about it all are getting longer and longer. I'm guessing that'll change when the physical reminders are here

@Babybaby2025 Ha yes I feel exactly the same, who is this mysterious baby that will apparently be in my life in July, I don’t know them! It just seems so unrealistic. I have wanted to be pregnant and have a baby probably since I was about 13 (probably more so in my teenage and early 20s years, though obviously glad I didn’t!), maybe because it’s been so long since then is seems inconceivable it’s actually a reality now. Maybe I thought it would feel different.

I was the same in the first 8 weeks or so I could think of nothing else, it was constant but now feel more distant.

Everything you’re describing is completely normal. It is the limbo stage as the other poster said. For me the reality only started to hit when I started washing all of the baby’s clothes and packing my maternity bag, and seeing the next to me crib set up in the bedroom. But that was waaaay later.
Mine was a “surprise” pregnancy and I spent most of it reading and researching EVERYTHING as a way I guess of taking control of this very unexpected and massive thing that was going to happen. I also started a Hynobirthing class about the stage you are at. Maybe look at something like that, or some other online baby classes (I recommend the baby academy or the honest midwife). It might help with the disconnect you have at the moment or at least make you feel like it’s a positive use of your “limbo” time.
But also… make the most of it just being the two of you. Go out for leisurely dinners, sleep in, read books, take a moment to sit on the toilet and enjoy the solitude- soon you’ll never get go to the toilet on your own again without a little spectator in tow 🤣

Never mind the pregnancy, at 12 months in I was still staring at my baby saying I couldn't believe he was ours and that he was here to stay.
My partner thought I was mad!

Hopefully you will start to believe when you feel the little love move.
Those first kicks were magical.

I had this the whole way through, I never believed or thought something would happen, it's not real, there's no way. Even when DD was first born I had no emotion as I was in disbelief

I felt like that until I had my baby in my arms

Sorry maybe I misunderstood what you are meaning, I was happy and really excited but just that I still had this feeling that it might but be true/wasn't real until I actually had him in my arms

I remember this! Got the NIPT back, so relieved everything was well, and told our family/friends/colleagues etc.
Then it was like a black hole as it was ages until the next scan, no bump, no kicks... it was like not being pregnant for a while! Things will get more interesting soon, just try and enjoy it now :)

Yes OP I felt exactly like this.

I’m now 23 weeks and the bump has appeared and I can feel movements, but even at my anatomy scan at 19w and 6 days I felt really normal and couldn’t believe the baby I could see on the screen! Still when I’m really busy at work I don’t really “feel” pregnant.

i stayed busy with books, tv and getting out with the dog to try and manage the anxiety.

hope for a smooth few weeks to get you to your anatomy scan x