Terrified unable to sleep

[Nohope4516]

I have just found out I am 9 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage in October. I had a scan and they said they could see a heartbeat but I need to book in for my dating scan. I haven’t booked in yet as I’m terrified that when I go to the scan they are going to say something is wrong and I couldn’t handle that again. I’m not sleeping and constantly in fear that something bad will happen or has happened. Is this normal or am I really overthinking things?

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP.

I'm so sorry about your previous MC. It's understandable you'd be feeling anxious and nervous this time round but not being able to sleep because of these feelings and avoiding booking in for your scan suggest it might be more than just the 'normal' worries that all pregnant women have.

I would really recommend talking to someone about all of this. You can speak to the midwife who will have helped women with the same fears and anxieties in the past I'm sure. She can help you.

Lovely. You’ve suffered a devastating loss. It’s understandable you are on alert but in the kindest possible way you need to find a way to relax and practice mindfulness. Facing problems before you come to them (however harrowing the reason) not a good way to ensure optimal health for you and bean. Find a way to shut your brain off at night… if you are wired with worrying try and slow down your breathing to block out intrusive thoughts making you feel stressed. Say in - out in your head slowly. Mantra can help too. Slowly: this too will pass. You can’t change what the future holds but you can give yourself best possible rest you need. Have everything crossed you will keep keeping well otherwise. ❤️