Unsympathetic Partner

[Stars23]

I'm not sure what I'm asking for here maybe I just need to rant. I'm struggling with HG with my 3rd pregnancy and I'm having such a hard time it has taken over my life.
My Partner looks at me as though I'm lazy or being dramatic because I spend most of the time curled up on the sofa if not curled round the toilet. I am the one who does most of the things in the house and with the other children but he's having to do alot of it and he just seems so annoyed with me. I tried to explain and He just snarled and said " I haven't said anything have i" I'm not really sure how to talk to him about how he's making me feel and I just feel like a useless wife and a useless woman but even if I move i just want to be sick.
10 weeks in and miserable. GP prescription prochlorperazine and tried cyclizine neither seems to work.

He sounds like an inconsiderate arse. I'm not sure I would want to be with someone like that.

I didn't have HG but did come across a couple of people with it in hospital. It was very debilitating for them.

Do you have other family support available?

I have my mum who has been the best, but she works and is coming up 60 herself i hate to keep asking. He is being an arse isn't it. Just not sure I have the energy to get into a fight I just wish he'd understand.

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through, HG is so debilitating. And I'm sorry to hear that your husband is being so nasty. I think I would provide him with resources (research, HG charities and advocacy groups etc.) to do some reading into the topic to understand just how well researched it is, how dangerous it is and how utterly impossible it is to continue a normal life with this condition. He clearly hasn't got a notion of how tough it is for you.
I would also be having a very frank conversation about how you are feeling eg 'We need to discuss how unwell I am at the moment and how unsupported I'm feeling. I am growing our child and we've gone into this as a couple and therefore need to overcome this as a couple.' Assuming your relationship is otherwise good and you've decided to have another child together, then he is equally responsible and needs to cop himself on. You need to tell him that he has to help more at home and with the other children and that it's not up for discussion. Remind him that if he were sick you wouldn't expect him to take on the brunt of the housework and childcare.
At the end of the day you are a team and are expanding your family together and he needs to act in accordance. I hope by spelling it out for him he'll change his tune.

I am 16 weeks and also have HG. It’s debilitating. I’m lucky my DH is very kind and helpful with the whole thing. And yet i still have my days that i think he must think im being lazy / not pulling my weight! (he doesn’t at all it’s in my head but i am a worrier) So i can’t imagine if he actually WAS showing signs he felt like i was being lazy.

Are you on the HG facebook group? it’s extremely helpful, but also might be for your DH to join? Women are very very open on there and i think it’s good for people to see just what this condition does and how it makes you feel.

Sending love x

Ask gp to prescribe you xonvea. I've had hg with my 2 previous pregnancies and nothing worked. With this pregnancy my hg has been horrible again, gp said to try a new medication. Prescribed me xonvea to take 4 times a day. 1 morning, 1 afternoon, 2 evening. Total game changer. Yes I still feel a little bit sick and yes I'm still sick maybe twice a day. But without these tablets I was sick all day everyday. It's miserable, it's physically and emotionally draining. And unless you've had hg it's hard to understand just how debilitating it is.