Surprise baby no.3

[Scotlass93]

Hello everyone, randomly on the 1st January I felt like I should do a pregnancy test which quickly came back positive… I’ve always wanted a big family but currently I have a four and a half year old and a two year old , and since my youngest turned one I’ve found mum life particularly tough, I love being a mum but the past year has been stressful… I’d say the past two months I’ve just settled into being a mum of two and feel really content where I’m at.. I knew I would want a third baby one day but this has come as such a surprise and was definitely not part of this years plan… if I was a year down the line I’m sure I’d be delighted.. has anyone had a similar experience?? I also feel a bit ashamed wondering what other people’s views on us expecting another baby will be.. my other half tells me not to worry about what others think.. my main concern is how I will cope with three children so young, I feel I will be taking myself away from the two I already have by having another baby :(

Congratulations OP - I think!

I understand where you’re coming from. I’m 29 weeks with my third, and my children are 3.5 and 1.5. We had also planned to have 3, but with a bigger gap - my period hadn’t returned after number 2 when I discovered I was pregnant, so it was a bit of a surprise (I know, more fool me)!

I’m quite nervous about how we will manage, but I generally feel that we will somehow.

Oh, and be prepared for lots of unhelpful comments when you let people know you’re pregnant. It’s been very much “again?” or “why?” or “are you mad?” or “on purpose?”, as opposed to “congratulations”!

Thank you for your reply, you’ve instantly made me feel better knowing I’m not alone in this… honestly appreciate your comment so much!!! ahh I’m the same as you, I was breastfeeding my youngest and I’ve not had a period since Feb 2022…

I currently work part time and it’s the thought of going back to work after Mat leave that scares me most (long time off - I know) but I’m always thinking well ahead lol!!!!

omg what is wrong with some people, I was brought up if you haven’t got anything nice to say don’t say anything at all!!!!

congratulations on your pregnancy. i can imagine how nervous you are. talking as a mum of 2, it is difficult as it is. i always wanted a big family but my youngest is 6mo and it was what they call a 'geriatric pregnancy' so i think thats it for us, but if we had an oopsie i think i would embrace it and know that i would have a tough ride ahead of me but feel incredibly lucky to be able to be a mum of 3. i am on mat leave and dred sending my baby to nursery so young but it is what it is and things always work themselves out. best of luck to you x

I have three with similar age gaps and have found it pretty ok. Works quite nicely with having the summer holidays off after reception too!

I’ve woken up today feeling really undecided about this pregnancy, i know I’m the only one who can make the final decision but I am really on the fence, my hearts breaking a lot but I don’t know what’s the right thing to do for me right now…. My other half has said he will fully support me in my decision either way but if we do decide to terminate, he wouldn’t be willing to try again, it would be the four of us all the way… my hearts so torn….