Are one large bite of spoilt tuna mayo sandwich 32 weeks pregnant

[Mummyschubs]

Hi, I was a at a cafe with my toddler today and ordered a tuna mayo toastie. I ate one large bite of a corner as was really hungry and swallowed. Felt it didn’t taste right but had just had a swig of my partners coffee so tried one more smaller bite before asking my husband to try. He also said it tasted more fishy than tinned tuna should and more vinegary/almost metallic than should.
I asked the staff if they could tell me when the mix had been made up and they said two days ago. I then decided to make myself vomit and I think got most of it up. I also emailed the managers of the farm and have now got this response back which makes me believe it was first made/opened four days ago??
Hello,

Apologies you didn't have a good experience today at the cafe .
We spoke with the staff and we point out your concerns . We want to let you know that
we buy the tuna and mayo mix ready from the supplier.
It was busy last Sunday so we opened one of the mix container that day.
And we were closed Monday and wednesday so technically today is the last day to use.
If you said you found it fishier well speak with the supplier as well.
If there is any questions you have please let me know.

Is my baby going to be ok? Going to call my midwife in the morning but guessing it’s just wait and see? I had a miscarriage last year December so this is a very much wanted pregnancy and I’ve been super stressed throughout 😭😭

@Helpwithdivorce I guess you’ve been lucky enough to not have experienced miscarriage before and I don’t say that lightly as I truelt hope you haven’t, but it is something you will know from my previous post is a major source of anxiety. So what if needing reassurance from another group of mums helps me? When I’ve spent this whole pregnancy trying to do everything right as like most people who experience miscarriage, you don’t trust your own body anymore, it’s very frustrating to go to a cafe and end up with spoilt food. The cafe have actually got back to me and said that yesterday was the last day it should have been used and that they are reviewing their processes as their staff in there obviously had little clue as to when it had been opened as they said 2 days when in actual fact it had been 4. I guess by asking people you hope someone else may have had a similar experience…yes I have anxiety about having another miscarriage but I think that actually makes me normal, not OTT. Think being absolutely blase about this stuff would indicate some sort of personality deficit. Honestly, from a fellow vet mum I expect more.

@tattychicken mayve you don’t have tastebuds but as I said…it clearly didn’t taste right and my partner confirmed it! Tasting off means bacterial growth and if you’ve read the answers from people who work in the food industry here then you’ll see it’s unacceptable and a huge risk for food poisoning. Maybe keep unuseful conments to yourself, especially when you clearly haven’t read the post properly.

The midwife is a medical professional, most who reply on here are not. If you're going to ask a question, people can only answer in good faith, beyond that they don't owe you anything and it's up to you to do what you think is right for yourself.

You are going to really struggle with parenting with this level of anxiety.

You won't be able to control everything with a child.

They will fall over.
They will get sick.
They will pick up bugs from other people.
They'll have accidents.

You will make mistakes.
DP will make mistakes.
Other relatives will make mistakes.

Get treatment for your anxiety before it ruins all your lives.

You posted asking for advice and people responded, you can't then get angry that they didn't agree with you or say exactly what you wanted to hear.

Of course a midwife is going to err on the side of caution and it's always wise to get proper medical advice. What you get on a forum of other mums/expectant mums is a dose of realism because, truth be told, a lot of us have been there where we've eaten something we shouldn't have without realising or taken a bite of something that tasted a bit 'off'. That's life, you chalk it up to experience and you move on. Heck, some women don't even know they're pregnant till they're in labour so think about what they're eating and drinking for 9 months!

This probably won't be the last thing that happens to you when pregnant so it's not a bad thing to be able to deal with it calmly and move on. I've had faints and falls, definitely eaten things I shouldn't and I got my BFP at 5 weeks in the middle of an all inclusive holiday where I'd been drinking far too many cocktails in the week prior! I'm 28 weeks now and all is OK.

What's done is done. Pregnancy is an anxious time anyway, don't make it harder on yourself.

You seem an expert in bacterial growth.

Not sure why you needed to ask MN since we’re all clearly wrong

Jebus! Some angry mums on here. And not very well informed ones either.
@Mummyschubs im so sorry for your loss. Pregnancy after loss is a tough road. I really don’t think you overreacted and your gut instincts were correct. I was hospitalised due to severe food poisoning (was confirmed salmonella) and severe dehydration. My little boy was as a consequence born a few weeks premature at 33 weeks but is doing fine now at 2 years old.
Despite not losing our son my following pregnancy I was a lot more anxious due to what had happened so I totally get it.
I actually only developed symptoms 4-5 days after eating a chicken mayo salad so do keep an eye on how your tummy feels but I would say as you seem to have got most of it up you should be fine. Mine also only tasted slightly more vinegary than usual and I thought it was the type of mayo, which it could have been, could also have been the chicken. Two others in our group who ate it also got sick but apparently it effects pregnant people worse. But even IF it happens you guys will be ok, it’s just very unpleasant.
Sounds to me like you are going to be a wonderful responsive mum so just ignore those here who don’t understand. They obviously can’t scroll past a post without having to post on it, whether their input is useful or not. And some should really re-think their wording. Wishing you the best for the rest of your pregnancy and that you don’t get sick.

@sabamum But...she was after reassurance that she and her baby were going to be alright ? This is what most people offered. She did not request validation that she should be on high alert, and it was a close call, and she should be terrified for her and her babies health.

yes, food poisoning exists, and the food hygiene standards were poor, but, realistically the chances of this being catastrophic are very slim, hence people telling her she will be okay and try to relax.

Miscarriage is horrible, but what women seem to do to themselves after Miscarriage or through pregnancy is also horrible. I've seen it so many times on here, the thought processes women go through,

Was it because I ate that peice of salami?
Was it because I ran for the bus?
Was it because I had a sip of my husbands beer?
Was it because I had a bite of a sandwich that tasted funny?

Its sad, it's very very rare for a Miscarriage to be caused by a slip up of the mother, and its upsetting to see someone spiralling, in what is already such an anxious time over something so small.

@Babybaby2025 i do agree with you say but unfortunately when people use terminology like “Just bloody relax” and “you’re being OTT” or you massively overreacted (which she didn’t) it is going to sound dismissive and as when I read it, almost aggressive and patronising. Her concerns are real and can cause complications and until she could speak to her midwife she did what no doubt 100s of other expectant mums do everyday, turn to other mums for reassurance and some kind reassuring words. Not to be dismissed as neurotic mum. No doubt her medical experience has also made her a little more knowledgeable of the real risks as the other vet said, sometimes knowing too much can cause more anxiety because likely they’ve seen a lot more than we have.

@Sabamum I agree telling someone to relax doesn't work. But telling someone it was an over the top reaction isnt aggressive, if you validate someone's reaction and say "yes you were right to vomit up the bite of a sandwich and you are right to be very aware that you and your baby are in danger", that doesn't help anxiety, it feeds into it. She took all the steps she could to feel safe which is fair, whether I would have done the same? Completely irrelevant. But the aftermath of it, is if you seek support from others (who have all most likely had slip ups & concerns about something they have ate along the way) about whether you are going to be okay, the vast majority are going to find it more helpful to say yes, you are worrying over nothing and you and your baby will be fine, and its not worth panicking over incidents like that, as that's more helpful and reassuring than telling someone they are doing the right thing by worrying and spiralling.

There is so much to worry about in pregnancy, that its helpful to no one to encourage them to panic over a bite of a funny tasting sandwich, and it just feeds into this mindset that women blame and punish themselves for absolutely everything.

Well I don’t think it really matters any more. Tried to pm her to let her know she could contact me seeing I’ve been through it and looks like she’s deleted her account. I would say she’s better off without a lot of the unhelpful comments so probably a bright move considering. Hopefully all goes ok for her.

She tried to DM me (and had it deleted) after I gave one simple and clear response and engaged no further because there was going to be no getting through to her based on the way she was writing. Very odd.

Well looking back at what you wrote tbh it is probably one of the least helpful responses 😂 if you got bleach on your skin you’d wash it off, if you ate food that could make you sick surely the same logic applies. Better out than in. Might follow suit from her. It really isn’t a very helpful forum!

Your're welcome to your opinion on what I said (despite the fact that I'd think MN is the right place to offer anecdotal experiences of how it really is most of the time, rather than a worst case unlikely scenario), but it's still odd to respond to it privately 24 hours later (a couple of days after what she specifically described as ONE bite of food...) I'm guessing any ill effects would have come to light by then and it seems they hadn't. Which probably isn't down to her the 'decision' her dramatic storytelling revealed to us of her vomitting.

PP have it right that she asked for reassurance and didn't really want it, preferring to have her unnecessary anxieties reinforced. And the same with the midwife recount - nothing reported back implied that OP had actually been agreed with or that her extensive 'knowledge' had been endorsed. More likely the midwife just acquiesced than even erred on the side of caution. There were enough protesting followup posts of I just thought (because I know so much about this!)...

I also take issue with the tone relating to previous miscarriages. Yes it was the OP's thread and her experience, but this insincere I can tell you've never had one/I hope you've never experienced it /what would you know attitude is just disrespectful when so many women will have actually encountered the same, but have understood that it's not usually down to a mistake a woman makes and it's unhelpful to fuel that narrative. Even the fact that she correlated a 'much wanted' pregnancy with having suffered a loss implies a flawed logic. Most pregnancies are much wanted regardless, and actually in my view, actually ought to be viewed in their own right, not as some sort of replacement.

I do agree with a PP it would be incredibly beneficial to get the anxiety under control sooner rather than later because there will be numerous triggers in pregnancy, labour, birth and parenthood to come

Yes actually I have experienced losses and complicated pregnancy with a lot of bleeding throughout. However I don’t have anxiety to this extent and never did. Seeking reassurance is fine, however you don’t seem to be able to recognise that this level of anxiety isn’t normal despite multiple people pointing it out. I’m not saying this to be mean, genuinely, but you have only become angry at the posters not agreeing with you. I don’t disagree with you that the cafe shouldn’t have been serving out of date food, however the level of reaction to it isn’t normal and I do think it would be worth speaking to your healthcare team about the anxiety you are experiencing rather than getting cross with people for pointing it out.