Feel so lonely during pregnancy anyone else?

[rosiebutterfly]

This is my second pregnancy, I’m mid 30s so it’s not like I’m the first out of my friends to have babies but it feels like everyone’s kind of moved on from me? my best friends are now hanging around with a new group of mum friends and all the stuff I would used to be invited to I don’t anymore my other close friends have moved away so naturally we’re distant, so I’m seeing everyone move on around me kind of and I’m just left standing still pregnant without my best friends anymore, I’ve tried to download peanut but haven’t really been able to find talkative mums on there maybe I’ve been unlucky has anyone else experienced this? I’m wondering also if it’s hormones aswell I’ve got that constant pit in my stomach feeling like I’m going through a break up

Ah I'm sorry to hear you're feeling crap. How far along are you?

Why have your "best friends" moved on? Have you tried reaching out to them 121 and saying "do you fancy going to xyz?" Or has there been some sort of falling out?

FWIW I found peanut utterly useless. I made one mum friend at my local bumps and babies group though.

I’m half way, it’s just fizzled out and they had children at different times years before me so they’ve found a good mum group to do everything with, I saw them once last year when they were my best friend of 17 years, I have reached out to them and asked to see them in November but they were busy hopefully will see them in the next month or so for something if they don’t cancel, I think it’s social media too as it’s constantly in my face that they’re all going out together while I’m sat at home on my own lol

Sounds difficult, I think it's such an overwhelming time anyway and then if you feel left out it can add to it. Maybe send a message explaining how you feel and how much you value spending time with them? I think friends can drift apart and come back, so if you feel like you're putting in all the effort maybe mute them for a bit on social media so you're not getting stuff on your feed and see if there's any local groups or online groups where you can potentially meet new friends?

Sorry you're feeling like this OP but these don't sound much like 'best friends' to begin with - I'm expecting at 42 and have friends ranging from childless to one who's just become a grandmother and everything in between. None of that makes a difference to our friendships.

Maybe use this as an opportunity to make some new friends through antenatal classes like NCT, and mother and baby classes once baby is here.