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Parents Acting Oddly

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Oli16 · 01/01/2025 15:23

I told my parents (me F33) with my partner (M34) we were expecting our first and that it’s early days but wanted to share the news with them (I’m 7 weeks this weekend)

They seemed happy when I told them both and my Mum was making me ginger tea as I said I felt off food, my Dad kept patting my partner on his back and generally both being warm about the news.

since I’ve got home after seeing them at Christmas they’ve rang and messaged me to ask when I’m going to tell my brother (who lives with them age 25) and sister - I initially told them I wanted to wait until my 12 week scan to tell them.

they then called again to say that their “still processing the news like delayed shock” and asked me why I’m getting a private scan at 7 weeks. They are generally being bit weird / their tone on the phone and haven’t asked how I’m feeling or that they’re really happy / excited. I know it’s early still but I can tell they are being a bit weird now about it all and it’s making me feel really down as I always want them to approve of what I’m doing in life I’m quite close with them.

should I have a conversation with my parents to ask if their ok even though it should be the other way around? Just think their reaction was happy and now it’s turned to feel a bit ‘off’

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RedPandaFluff · 01/01/2025 15:34

I'm wondering if they've started thinking that it's quite early on in the pregnancy, so perhaps they're worried about miscarriage (and I'm so sorry for even mentioning that, I hope it doesn't happen to you) - maybe that's causing some reservation and they're a bit more cautious about being happy? They're possibly worried about you?

NeedSomeComfy · 01/01/2025 15:38

My mother was quite 'odd' about the pregnancies for all her grandchildren. She didn't like talking about them and generally hated too much forward planning because 'anything could happen'. Once the grandchildren arrived she has been a classic delighted grandmother. She was just anxious about the pregnancies and couldn't get excited about them until everything had gone OK.

HopefulllHolly · 01/01/2025 18:03

They sound like my parents! It’s anxiety I think. Mine only calmed down at 20 weeks 😂 my dad wouldn’t really acknowledge it and my mum was less excited than I had expected. When I asked her later she said they just didn’t want to get carried away. I guess I’m older generations they didn’t find out early like we do now, so they’ll probably kick in to gear once you get to a scan or something. Try not to let it bother you (though it bothered me!).
And big congratulations 🥳

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