I don’t know who I conceived by

[Anonymous6943]

I’ve just taken a test and it’s come up positive.

I did a test 5 days ago which was negative.

my period was due on 22nd December and has always been regular.

I had sex on 1st December with one person, we used a condom. We did have unprotected sex for a very short while at the beginning but then used a condom.

I then had sex a few weeks ago with my regular partner I don’t really know what date it was but perhaps around 11th December at a guess. It was unprotected. I’m single but me and this person regularly hook up. It’s usually protected as I haven’t been on my pill. I asked him to pull out as I knew it was risky but he didn’t. I was annoyed but thought it’s ok I think I’ve past my ovulation date I should be safe.

Fast forward to today and I’m pregnant. I guess what I’m asking is… who is most likely to be the father.

I know this is a mess and Im horrified that I’m even asking this, how could I be so silly. I just need some advice on whether it could be from the guy from 1st December or whether it’s definitely my regular partners. Either way… this is not ideal!

If you asked him to pull out and he didn't, you know what that is, right?

I would try to take your focus off who it might be and think about what you want to do next, regardless of who it is.

Hi OP, its going to be really hard to say at this early stage and, with dates so close together, you're probably going to need a DNA test anyway to be sure.

Once you have an official due date from your 12 week scan you'll get a better idea. You count back 38 weeks from your due date for approximate conception date - it's not an exact science though as scans can be out by a few days either way and sperm can actually live inside of you for several days before conception but it'll give you an informed guess.

I'm guessing the regular partner around the 11th

I would guess the second one.

Much more likely to be the one who ejaculated inside you, I would have thought.

What he's done is the statutory definition of rape...you consented to sexual intercourse on the basis that he not ejaculate inside of you. You would not have consented to the sex if you had known he was going to do so, therefore you did not consent to sex.

Look up R V DPP 2013

From the dates, it's much more likely to be your regular partner.

It's impossible to say, you could have ovulated late and sperm can live up to a week inside you, more probable to be the second though.

You've been raped by your regular partner
Had risky sex with another person

You need an STI test
Does it matter who the father is considereing your regular partner didn't listen to you during sex,I'd hope you wouldn't remain with him.
Seriously consider if you want to bring a baby into this mess. I'm not judging you but it doesnt sound like you are in the position to be making good decisions right now. This would tie you to them for 18 years minimum. Being a single parent is hard, it's particularly hard with a newborn.