People being negative about pregnancy?

[Ros2023]

I am 23 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby. I already have a 14 and 12 year old.
I am feeling a little fed up as I feel like there is a lot of negativity around me when it comes to having a baby. Friends and family are so happy for us and are so fussy. But had a few comments about what I have to come such as sleepless nights, a crying baby, losing who I am and losing my life etc. I have obviously had two other children and know how challenging it can be. I had post natal depression after my second and I’m hoping I don’t get it this time around. I know how blessed I am and I am so grateful and happy to be having another baby but after hearing previous comments I feel quite negative today about how difficult raising a baby is and everything that comes with it. Has anyone else had this? Can anyone send positive vibes my way today please!

Hi Ros2023,

I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. I don't know why people feel the need to fixate on the time commitment that children obviously are, as if it won't have occurred to us. This is a happy time for you and I would say to give those people a swerve for a bit if you can; protect your peace!

Congratulations :)

I'm pregnant with my 3rd and have had a handful of congratulations and more commiserations/are you mad/you know how this works than I care to mention.

Tbh after today's shit show of parenting I was questioning whether they were right but this baby is very much wanted after two miscarriages 😂

I feel you! But feel like it’s every time I look online or speak to friends who have children it’s all really negative about how hard it is and I’ve just had a huge hormonal cry to my partner about how I’m terrified of losing my identity and my independence / career freelancing in the film industry. I’ve always wanted kids and now 7 weeks pregnant and all the noise in my head is just about how negative it is having kids!

wish I felt more positive but hard when everyone’s so doom and gloom about how tough it is
:/

I agree! I’m pregnant with a third.

people were overjoyed with first baby, fairly okay with second baby and some like why do you need a third child?! Did you want this baby etc etc

It’s madness that people feel the need to be like this. Everyone knows that having children is a big commitment and can be very challenging. But it’s also wonderful and the best thing I’ve ever done! Despite all of the hard times along the way. I keep trying to remind myself of this ❤️

I hate the comment you got your hands full 🙄🙄

Just reply sweetly "I know, I've done it before, that's why I'm doing it again" and walk away

Yes of course there will be sleepless nights but that mad phase at the start is very quick! That’s what I’m telling myself anyway!

Before I got married I got the same..”say goodbye to happiness” “oh it’s all downhill from here” “say goodbye to your sex life”
we’d been together for 10 years before we got married 😂..
then when I got pregnant “oh just you wait” “you’ll never have your life back” “kids ruins your life”
All it is, is miserable people projecting.

I remember really snapping at 2 women at work who were being super negative about babies / pregnancies and just said “well why do you both have 2 bloody children then if it’s so bad ?!” And stormed out.
and Dya know what? How wrong they were!
I struggled so badly with infertility and losses having my baby finally in my arms was just the happiest moment of my life.
yes ofc we were all exhausted it happens it’s part and parcel of a baby.. it still doesn’t take away all the positives of one!