Think I'm pregnant.. what to do about festivities?

[zinrlow]

I think that I may be pregnant. I am around 10 days late, I did a test on Sunday night which was an EXTREMELY faint line, to the point where I looked at it and discarded it as a negative test. It is only now that I am thinking about that test and that it may have been positive.

I have still not come on and my boobs are quite sore, I just have a very strong gut feeling. I am going to test again in the morning just to double check.

Me and my partner are not trying to get pregnant, I came off my pill right at the beginning of November for health reasons and haven't been as careful as I should have been.

I have some festive outings planned - night out tomorrow night, and probably on Saturday night too. I am wondering how to go about this if I test positive tomorrow? Part of me thought I will leave testing until Friday and carry on as normal tomorrow, but that would be very irresponsible of me to do. If I test positive Do I cancel tomorrow, I can't go and not drink as it's a bottomless brunch so will be very obvious! But then I will be sitting in alone while partner is out with his friends and everyone is enjoying their boxing days.

I know I probably sound batshit writing this, but I just have a VERY strong feeling that I am pregnant and can't shake it off.

P.s Merry Christmas everyone!🎄

This is your choice to make. Some women refuse to touch alcohol at all when they find out they're pregnant, some get drunk for weeks straight before knowing they are even pregnant. Some mothers even think one glass of wine is okay 🤷🏻‍♀️ I personally kept up with habits until I saw a positive test as I had been late a few times during my period, cancelled my plans, and it been a negative test. I think it's not usually frowned upon to drink this early as most women wouldn't even know they're pregnant. It's your own morals you've got to decide. You're going to be judged for every single thing you do! If you want my personal opinion however; as soon as I found out I was defo pregnant (saw a line) I couldn't imagine smoking or drinking alcohol. My own morals wouldn't allow that

@AHBM2020 thank you for your response. I completely agree with everything that you have said. I am exactly the same, if I knew I was pregnant I wouldn't touch a drop of alcohol no questions asked. I am just worried that if I carry on with my plans tomorrow and then test positive on Friday I'll be kicking myself as I have a gut feeling that I am pregnant so will be annoyed at myself for ignoring it and continuing to drink. I know it's very early days even if I am, but feel that it may be irresponsible of me to go out drinking tomorrow when I'm 99% sure that I could be pregnant, I don't know if I'm even making sense!

Can't you just say that you overdid the alcohol on xmas day, so you won't be drinking?

Supermarkets will be open tomorrow to get tests, hope the outcome is what you are hoping for.

I would just test again- a line, however faint, is a line. Congrats!

I would defo suggest storing first urine then. You pee in a clean cup with morning urine, and store it in the fridge for a few hours. There's garages open that you can go buy tests from. I'd go get one, and do the test before going out. That way you know exactly if your pregnant or not

I’d test as soon as possible, but I wouldn’t change my plans until I had a positive test. Let’s be real, so many women drink before knowing they are pregnant, plus this early on the baby is probably still just a yolk and egg sac, the placenta which would pass alcohol from you to the baby hasn’t even formed yet.

In your situation I would test. You seem very sure that you wouldn't want to drink if you were pregnant, therefore I think you need to test and not drink if you are pregnant. I think if you don't test before you go to brunch, drink, and then test positive after, you will feel as guilty for not testing when you "felt you might be pregnant" and then drinking, as you would if you had tested, found you were pregnant, and then decided to drink anyway. As regards what you do tomorrow - It is completely fine not to drink - always. Otherwise, you have just recovered from an infection and are still finishing the course of anti-biotics... a chest, ear, throat infection can go well before the course of anti-biotics is finished, and if you think people might be weary of catching something, you've got something they won't catch unless they touch and they definately don't want to see - infected toe nail, boil etc.

Thanks all.

I know many people wouldn't even know at this stage and would continue to drink etc until finding out, but I think because I am convinced that I am I would feel very irresponsible doing that!

I will get a test first thing.

I got absolutely wasted at my best friends hen do, two days of drinking.
I didn't know I was 11 weeks pregnant,
Completely healthy pregnancy, I think it's more about continual drinking which overloads your body being able to grow a baby.
If you want a drink
Just don't over do it. Have singles, and mix your wine with lemonade.
I had 1/4 of a bottle of wine yesterday, mixed it with lemonade and i really enjoyed it

@zinrlow can we have an update? How are you?

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@Toriiaa thanks for sharing your experience! That makes me feel better as I have been drinking quite a bit through December, but I had a negative test when I tested first so it must be early days x

@pambeesleyhalpert thanks for checking in. So I did the test and am very much pregnant, it's only the cheap Amazon ones but the line came up so quickly and is very dark.. so my gut feeling was correct!

@zinrlow congratulations on the pregnancy. And although there will be tonnes of women on here having a go.
Honestly even my home birth midwife last time round said drinking the odd drink won't damage your baby.
This time around for my second pregnancy I really haven't followed any generic guidance, and we are a raw milk household as my family are ex dairy farmers, life's really not that difficult if you switch off from the pressure of the nhs haha
There's heroin addicts out there having perfectly healthy babies.
Half a glass of wine isn't going to cause you any damage.

Just don't drink. If anyone asks why you can just say you're pregnant but it's really early days and anything could happen. Stops people making a big fuss of it and asking questions if you use that caveat to shut it down.

@Toriiaa thank you, and congratulations to you too!

I won't be touching a drink now. I only drink on nights out to get tipsy, I don't actually enjoy the taste so would never have just one, I'd rather a soft drink😊 Thank you for the reassurance, I have been worried as I've drank quite a bit throughout December!

Ah yay congratulations!!