Mother in law

[Flower2025]

Is it just me or does anyone else think it’s weird that my mother in law did not get in touch to congratulate me or ask how I’m feeling or anything since falling pregnant with her sons first child?
I ended up seeing her when I was 17 weeks pregnant because I ended up going to their house with my partner to let them know we were expecting a boy.

The reason I’m posting is because I have said to my partner it is strange and I don’t want to spend my time over Christmas with them I would rather be with my own family who make the effort. I am happy to visit and call in with their gifts but I don’t want to spend a full day with people who don’t acknowledge me

It's not just you. It's definitely weird. She should be excited for you both and at the prospect of becoming a gran! How's your relationship otherwise? Are you close? Is she usually distant with you? Or is this out of character? If its out of character I'd have your partner speak to her about it and let her know it's hurt your feelings. I think it's reasonable to not spend time with someone who's shown no interest in you.

Depends. I didn't expect a separate call from my MIL when DH told her I was pregnant. It was our joint news and his conversation covered it.

Did she ever ask how I was? Maybe, don't remember. But I was fine and visibly clearly fine so being asked would have just annoyed me.

If she's outright ignoring you that's not on but if she's just not specifcally congratulated you (singular) but congratulated you (plural) via your DP that's fine

Are there other examples besides this OP?

Depends on your relationship with her before this. Are you close?

i wouldn’t say close but we would speak over messages frequently and she would message wanting me to do references for jobs and would send photos of her decorating etc

Even though before this me and her son had no children together but I have a daughter I invited them to my daughters christening etc we took turns each year over his parents or my parents for Christmas