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Scared I’m pregnant

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Ljd401 · 21/12/2024 03:40

My period isn’t regular in that it can sometimes be 24 days, 26 days, 27 days, 29 days and my husband and I stupidly thought we’d not use anything on day 20, 24 and 28 as thought I’d ovulated but as this months cycle is so late I’m now worried I’m pregnant. I’ve done 10 tests - 2 early response ones and one at the GP yesterday which are all negative although after using a £1 shop one I swear there was a faint line which appeared about 45 minutes after testing. I’m scared. I had a major complication in my last pregnancy so it would be dangerous to go through with a pregnancy. I also have a health scare going on at the moment (cancer testing) and am supposed to be going on holiday on 4th Jan so I’m in a major panic in case I need an abortion pill. Feel so angry at myself for being totally irresponsible :-(. Ruining Christmas even more (the breast cancer testing is also helping to ruin that and then I’m worried if I am pregnant and it turns out to be cancer, I’ll be “feeding” the cancer with hormones). :-(
Feel such a mess.
Tested just now as couldn’t hold on until morning, negative. When I saw the GP they said to wait another week to test.

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NormaNormalPants · 21/12/2024 05:36

I’m so sorry you’re going through so much atm, it sounds really tough. I know it’s easier said than done but try not to worry too much. The tests you have taken have been negative, the one that looked like a faint positive after 45mins was well outside of the window for reading results so absolutely can’t be considered a positive test.

SErunner · 21/12/2024 06:41

If you've had 10 negative tests after you'd expect your period, you're not pregnant. Try not to worry. Your period is probably just late.

buttonousmaximous · 21/12/2024 07:34

You're probably not pregnant if tests are negative and it's likely you're late due to the stress.

If you don't want to get pregnant, use protection!!

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Ljd401 · 21/12/2024 08:11

buttonousmaximous · 21/12/2024 07:34

You're probably not pregnant if tests are negative and it's likely you're late due to the stress.

If you don't want to get pregnant, use protection!!

Totally and utterly agree with you. I’m so annoyed at myself, believe me.

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Ljd401 · 21/12/2024 08:11

NormaNormalPants · 21/12/2024 05:36

I’m so sorry you’re going through so much atm, it sounds really tough. I know it’s easier said than done but try not to worry too much. The tests you have taken have been negative, the one that looked like a faint positive after 45mins was well outside of the window for reading results so absolutely can’t be considered a positive test.

Thanks for being lovely.

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Ljd401 · 21/12/2024 08:12

SErunner · 21/12/2024 06:41

If you've had 10 negative tests after you'd expect your period, you're not pregnant. Try not to worry. Your period is probably just late.

I keep reading of people not getting a positive result until late on. Just hoping I’m not one of those.

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remaininghopeful23 · 21/12/2024 08:50

What day in your cycle are you? If it can be 24-29 usually and you're outside of that window then you are late. If you think your period is late and you are testing negative then you're definitely not pregnant, being late your tests would be obvious positives! Please don't let this ruin your Christmas, you absolutely deserve a nice one this year. It's way more likely that you're late due to stress, it can wreak havoc on your cycle. So sorry to hear everything you have going on, I hope all works out and tests go well for you x

Harriet1989 · 21/12/2024 08:59

I don't think a positive after 45 mins would be considered a positive, it's well outside the window. Given the number of negatives you've had it sounds like you aren't pregnant. You can test again if your period doesn't arrive but I think you can breathe!

Understand your anxiety over it but it sounds incredibly unlikely..

Maybe buy a digital and use it in a week so you have the words to read and it would show by then?

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Ljd401 · 21/12/2024 09:20

remaininghopeful23 · 21/12/2024 08:50

What day in your cycle are you? If it can be 24-29 usually and you're outside of that window then you are late. If you think your period is late and you are testing negative then you're definitely not pregnant, being late your tests would be obvious positives! Please don't let this ruin your Christmas, you absolutely deserve a nice one this year. It's way more likely that you're late due to stress, it can wreak havoc on your cycle. So sorry to hear everything you have going on, I hope all works out and tests go well for you x

What a lovely message. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to me.

Day 31 today which is very unusual and very late. Last month I was 24 days. Obviously being 41 I guess things will start to change with my cycles.

You’re very right about stress, I’ve been under an awful lot so more than likely the lateness is due to that. Hopefully I’ll come on very soon. Hope you have a great Christmas and thanks to people for taking the time to reply to me. If I still haven’t come on, I’ll keep testing each day to make sure it’s not a late positive.

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Ljd401 · 21/12/2024 09:22

Harriet1989 · 21/12/2024 08:59

I don't think a positive after 45 mins would be considered a positive, it's well outside the window. Given the number of negatives you've had it sounds like you aren't pregnant. You can test again if your period doesn't arrive but I think you can breathe!

Understand your anxiety over it but it sounds incredibly unlikely..

Maybe buy a digital and use it in a week so you have the words to read and it would show by then?

Thats a very good idea. Thank you.

My husband said he couldn’t even see the faint line but it was definitely there. As it was after the 3 minutes I should have just discarded it. 2 negatives this morning and one taken on an early pregnancy test.

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Hope you have a lovely Christmas x

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Ljd401 · 22/12/2024 11:13

Still no period but another negative test.

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AHBM2020 · 22/12/2024 21:09

My tests didnt show positive until 2-3 days after my period was due. I was actually certain I wasn't pregnant. Decided to do a final one, and quickly put it away on the side when no line appeared straight away. Walked past it maybe 2 minutes late, had to do a double take and get the flashlight on as swore there was a line 😂 couldn't believe my eyes, had to get my bf to confirm it in which he just stared at it gobsmacked. 😂 wait a few days and try another strip test with first urine. If a few days has passed and they're still negative, I'd say you're in the clear :)

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Ljd401 · 22/12/2024 21:23

AHBM2020 · 22/12/2024 21:09

My tests didnt show positive until 2-3 days after my period was due. I was actually certain I wasn't pregnant. Decided to do a final one, and quickly put it away on the side when no line appeared straight away. Walked past it maybe 2 minutes late, had to do a double take and get the flashlight on as swore there was a line 😂 couldn't believe my eyes, had to get my bf to confirm it in which he just stared at it gobsmacked. 😂 wait a few days and try another strip test with first urine. If a few days has passed and they're still negative, I'd say you're in the clear :)

Had you been testing straight after your period was due each day?x

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AHBM2020 · 22/12/2024 21:33

@Ljd401

I took an early test day before my period, negative. I took a standard pregnancy test on my period; and it showed negative. It was then the next day and I took another cheap test and it also said negative. I was sure I wasn't pregnant, but I had one test left and decided to use it at like midnight and the line showed after a few minutes, really faint. Had to double take, scoop it up and analyse it in the light. I was really panicking because it was about 1am in the morning; was my last test and shops were closed. So I was stressed waiting for a shop to open I could run to. I bought some cheap strips, and a digital clearblue weeks test. The strips showed faint lines on each of them, but the clearblue said negative. I kept testing each day with strip tests, and they weren't getting any darker. I took a further cheap off brand 2 digital tests over the next few days, all negative. Finally, I took a strip and a digital test a day or two ago, and the line was strong and dark, the digital showed pregnant :).

stichguru · 22/12/2024 21:33

Fellow 42 - cycle's all over the bloody place - long periods (14 days), then over a months gap (6 weeks). You sound like you are in a perimenopause + cancer mess and probably not pregnant. However go to the doctor and get them to check everything for you. Hugs.

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Ljd401 · 22/12/2024 21:59

stichguru · 22/12/2024 21:33

Fellow 42 - cycle's all over the bloody place - long periods (14 days), then over a months gap (6 weeks). You sound like you are in a perimenopause + cancer mess and probably not pregnant. However go to the doctor and get them to check everything for you. Hugs.

Thanks for the support and reassurance.

So sorry your periods are all over the place too! You’re totally right about being in a mess about the suspected cancer. Can’t really switch off from it as have had it all hanging over me since the beginning of November and now panicking even more 😢.

Thank you for being lovely xx

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Ljd401 · 22/12/2024 22:01

AHBM2020 · 22/12/2024 21:33

@Ljd401

I took an early test day before my period, negative. I took a standard pregnancy test on my period; and it showed negative. It was then the next day and I took another cheap test and it also said negative. I was sure I wasn't pregnant, but I had one test left and decided to use it at like midnight and the line showed after a few minutes, really faint. Had to double take, scoop it up and analyse it in the light. I was really panicking because it was about 1am in the morning; was my last test and shops were closed. So I was stressed waiting for a shop to open I could run to. I bought some cheap strips, and a digital clearblue weeks test. The strips showed faint lines on each of them, but the clearblue said negative. I kept testing each day with strip tests, and they weren't getting any darker. I took a further cheap off brand 2 digital tests over the next few days, all negative. Finally, I took a strip and a digital test a day or two ago, and the line was strong and dark, the digital showed pregnant :).

Oh gosh! This worries me as I’ve tested a couple of days before I thought I’d be on and have tested every day since but there’s obviously still a chance I could be positive. What a mess I’m in :-(

Thank you for taking the time to reply and congratulations on your pregnancy xx

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Ljd401 · 22/12/2024 22:06

AHBM2020 · 22/12/2024 21:33

@Ljd401

I took an early test day before my period, negative. I took a standard pregnancy test on my period; and it showed negative. It was then the next day and I took another cheap test and it also said negative. I was sure I wasn't pregnant, but I had one test left and decided to use it at like midnight and the line showed after a few minutes, really faint. Had to double take, scoop it up and analyse it in the light. I was really panicking because it was about 1am in the morning; was my last test and shops were closed. So I was stressed waiting for a shop to open I could run to. I bought some cheap strips, and a digital clearblue weeks test. The strips showed faint lines on each of them, but the clearblue said negative. I kept testing each day with strip tests, and they weren't getting any darker. I took a further cheap off brand 2 digital tests over the next few days, all negative. Finally, I took a strip and a digital test a day or two ago, and the line was strong and dark, the digital showed pregnant :).

So would you say that you got the positive like 5 days after your period was due?xx

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AHBM2020 · 22/12/2024 22:16

How many days exactly has it been since your missed period? I'd say mine was 2-3 days after my due period it showed positive, a very faint line. If your 5+ days, and it still shows negative, I'd honestly take that as you're in the clear. But, periods can be unpredictable. One of my cycles was 28 days, the other was 32 days. It can really vary and be hard to tell

stichguru · 22/12/2024 22:42

Ljd401 · 22/12/2024 21:59

Thanks for the support and reassurance.

So sorry your periods are all over the place too! You’re totally right about being in a mess about the suspected cancer. Can’t really switch off from it as have had it all hanging over me since the beginning of November and now panicking even more 😢.

Thank you for being lovely xx

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It's driving me loopy - and that's in the knowledge that it's 99% likely to be normal menopause starting. Add in the whole cancer situation and I think I'd be loosing the plot!

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Ljd401 · 22/12/2024 23:13

I’ve just come on!!!! Thank goodness!!! Phew! One less thing to be worrying about.

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AHBM2020 · 22/12/2024 23:14

Ljd401 · 22/12/2024 23:13

I’ve just come on!!!! Thank goodness!!! Phew! One less thing to be worrying about.

That's great! I'd make sure to be extra safe from now on so you don't feel so much stress and worry :)

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Ljd401 · 23/12/2024 00:48

Definitely will be. Can’t have this again xx

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