Bump pain 38 weeks anyone else? Diastasis recti?

[Peonyyyy]

I’m 38 weeks and this is my second baby, overall been much more uncomfortable this time. I spend 2 days a week looking after our 3 year old when he’s not at nursery and I find these days the hardest - I get hip and bump pain from standing up for so long, picking him up, playing with him etc.
at a routine midwife appointment I had a different midwife to my usual one because it was a different day, I was about 30 weeks at the time. As I sat up from lying down from the heartbeat check she said I have diastasis recti because my belly domed as I sat up. I had no idea that’s what it was as the doming thing happened in my first pregnancy too, and I did the check afterwards where you put fingers in and I couldn’t get any in a few months after birth.
This time I’ve also noticed lately that when I stand up from lying down/sitting that my bump hurts in that area, around my belly button. Also I sometimes feel like when I look down at my bump is it almost in 2 parts.
Do I need to worry about how this will affect my recovery? I am having a c section. Have I done anything wrong for this to happen?
does anyone know how best to manage this after birth to get back to normal?
thank you!

Diastasis recti is really common, don't worry. I've had it with both pregnancies, worse this time with our second. The aches and pains you're describing sound pretty standard pregnancy stuff that people with and without diastasis recti probably have. To answer your questions:

1. No you haven't done anything wrong/to cause it. Try and avoid movements that exacerbate it eg sitting straight up from lying (roll onto your side instead), but don't worry too much about it.
2. It won't have any impact on you having a cesarean
3. For most people it heals well without any intervention over time (6-18 months, sometimes quicker). It shouldn't cause you any issues post partum other than aesthetic. It does take a long time to repair in some cases. If it's bothering you down the line, you could see a womens health physio who would likely be best placed to advise on things to help with it.

If your midwife isn't concerned there is no need for you to be :) hope the next few weeks go well.

Thank you @SErunner its just as it’s started to hurt when I stand up that I’ve been worrying I’m doing something to make it worse or that it’s not going to sort out afterwards, but as you say it seems to be very common and I am pretty sure I had it last time too.

fingers crossed it closes up nicely afterwards! I guess I’m just uncomfortable now because I’m getting to the end!

When i was pregnant with my daughter my bump coned/domed really easily and I had to make a conscious effort to avoid movements that triggered it to cone. I was worried about Diastasis recti. I think the gap in pregnancy was 2 of my fingers width about 2 cm and afterwards it was 1 finger width and soon no gap. This was 4 years now and I've never had any issues.

I think there's a difference between recognising it and trying to reduce the impact and not realising it's a thing and not mitigating the risk. Keep an eye on it but try not to fret