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Quick vote got 20wk scan in a few hours do i find out sex or not?

37 replies

lollyheart · 01/05/2008 09:42

firstly i just hope the baby is healthy and has no problems.

shall i find out the sex dh does not mind if we know or not i would love to know today.

Did you find out and are you glad you did or did you wish you had a suprise?

I no we might not be able to see if its not a flasher im not getting my hopes up to much.

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schneebly · 01/05/2008 09:45

If I was you I would find out but I am no good at surprises! You could just keep it to DH and yourself as a little bit of fun too! I knew with DS1 and was happy to know but didn't know with DS2 and it killed me not knowing!

schneebly · 01/05/2008 09:45

Everyone else will tell you not to find out though!

StrangeTown · 01/05/2008 09:46

Dh and I were very tempted at 20 weeks, but once that 30 mins is over at the scan, that's it you can't find out and I was so glad. Wondering about the sex for the next 20 weeks is great fun and the actual moment of delivery is fantastic. I had a section and our midwife was supposed to pass the baby to DH who was going to to bring the baby to me and we were going to look and find out sex together, but the anethsetist (sp) was so excited he shouted out 'It's a boy' as soon as DS was out. Hilarious.

booge · 01/05/2008 09:47

I found out both times and would again.

belgo · 01/05/2008 09:47

I was very happy to let it be a surprise.

wonderstuff · 01/05/2008 09:47

I found out, then a couple of people told me they had been told girls and had boys and then one person said she had been told boy and got girl! So I was still unsure and would not ask next time, turns out the prediction was right and I did have the expected girl

MrsMattie · 01/05/2008 09:48

I'd go for the surprise every time. It's one of the lovely things about having a baby.

ladytophamhatt · 01/05/2008 09:50

well, its a choice of 2, it can only be one or teh other so IMO its not that much of a surprise.

If there was a choice of 50 then of course it'd be a good idea to find out

But saying all this, I found out with ds2, 3 and 4 and I never regretted it.

mellyonion · 01/05/2008 09:52

there are nice things about both.

didn't find out with ds1, can't remember a thing about the early days...can't remember who found out he was a boy when he was born...but was all ok i think!

found out sex at scan with dd....loved knowing, enjoyed telling people the sex, enjoyed all the buying before hand etc...

didn't want to find out sex with ds2....had a fantastic calm home birth...i delivered him, found out the sex and was just thrilled at finding out for myself...the not knowing kept me going throughout my labour.

i do think that when you know and everyone else knows, it takes the edge a little off the birth from the point of view of announcing it.....people know the sex, often know what the baby will be called, and therefore are just waiting for the heads up that the baby has arrived... when you don't know the sex...it keeps them all hanging on for a bit longer!

i don't think i'd find out again if there is a next time for us.....

hope this helps you to decide!

barbiehouse · 01/05/2008 09:53

i was hoping to find out at 20wks, but couldn't. then was really pleased i didn't know. Now starting to wish i did, as i know dp has a preference, and don't want him to be disappointed at birth. I f you genuinely don't care what sex - have a surprise - more fun choosing names etc!

franke · 01/05/2008 09:54

Is it any less of a surprise to find out at the scan? I liked knowing beforehand - made me connect more with the little person inside me.

funnypeculiar · 01/05/2008 09:56

We didn't find out either time - & both times dh was the one to 'discover' the sex. Having him start blubbing (both times) as he told me what we'd got is one of my favourite memories

treacletart · 01/05/2008 09:57

DS was a surprise - lovely - dh was the one to tell me - only part of birth that went "to plan"

DD found out at 20 weeks - lovely too - we got the sonographer not to tell us at the hospital but write it on a little card in an envelope - then we took it to a posh restaurant and opened it with a glass of champagne - really nice way to find out.

good luck and enjoy either way!

Izzywhizzy · 01/05/2008 09:58

I did, but DP didn't want to know. It meant that I had a lovely secret to keep to myself for 20 weeks. It was great.

MrsTittleMouse · 01/05/2008 09:59

You will never get a concensus on here about finding out! If you would love to find out, then find out. That's the only consideration that you need.

BorgLady · 01/05/2008 09:59

I would find out! My pregnancy didn't seem real until I found out we were having a boy. Now we call him by his name and its been easier to pick clothes and nursery stuff for him. It feels like I am expecting my son and not just a generic baby, iyswim.

If they have got it wrong (which I seriously doubt, as when they zoomed in on the requisite area, it was very obvious to me and DP!) at least a girl can wear boys' clothes, and we had decided we wouldn't festoon a girl in pink anyway.

Hope that helps!

1066andallthat · 01/05/2008 10:01

I SO wanted a boy that I was shocked at myself. So, yes I found out and danced out of both scans. Wanted boys both times and got two boys. Don't get me wrong, I would have been as delighted with a girl.

Do you want to know? I did - got to choose names, clothes and it was great for me. I have a friend who is a midwife and yes, they do, occasionally, get it wrong .

cosima · 01/05/2008 10:01

find out. highly recommended

fym · 01/05/2008 10:02

I would find out (I wish I had) but don not under any circumstances tell people what the name will be! you may change your mind!

franke · 01/05/2008 10:02

Grav1 · 01/05/2008 10:20

I knew with both dd and ds and was glad I did. Only dh and I knew so everyone else had a surprise. Were able to choose names in advance and when hubby phoned to tell people the baby had arrived he could tell them the names as well.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 01/05/2008 11:05

I have my scan today and would LOVE to find out but DH says no!!! Go for it xxx

Disenchanted · 01/05/2008 11:08

I would!

I found out with both previous pregnancies and will do with this one too!

I always go straight to mothercare and buy my first colour appropriate outfit after too!

ButterflyMcQueen · 01/05/2008 11:15

if you are not bothered either way find out
if you are bothered dont`!

Disenchanted · 01/05/2008 17:33

Sooooo ... what did you do??

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