My best friends wedding is possibly my due date and I’m scared to tell ber

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my best friend is getting married next year and I am early into my pregnancy and I havnt had a confirmation on when my due date is but I expect it’s in the month of August which will make me not be able to go as it’s abroad. Obviously I know I can’t stop my life for others but I just feel bad and don’t know how she will react. My husband and her are from the same village in Ireland and we are going back for Christmas as is she. She will know something is up because I won’t be drinking but I feel I need to tell her then. I am still very early into my pregnancy but she will want to be going wedding mad in jan and I am meant to organise her hen. How should I approach this? I don’t want to to stress as it’s still so early :(

Congratulations on your pregancy

My best friend couldn't attend my wedding because she was pregnant and had HG- I was sad disappointed she couldn't come but happy she had conceived! No hard feelings .

I'm nearly missed another friends wedding as it was abroad and literally the day before they don't allow you to fly ...

if she's a true friend she will be happy for you and your news. plus you can still organise a hen pregnant

Thankyou 😊you have reassured me, yeah like I would still want to be involved as much as I can be!

Not the exact same because it wasn't abroad and I could actually attend..but my best friends wedding was the day after my due date. I was also bridesmaid. I remember feeling really nervous to tell her. She was over the moon for me and couldn't care less about the dates coinciding! I don't know why I ever worried, sure she's my best friend. So I think it'll be the same for you. If she's your best friend she won't feel anything but happiness for you! If she reacts badly, then that says a lot about her unfortunately. In my case she didn't know literally until the day of the wedding if I'd even be able to go because we all know how unpredictable babies are. Even with the uncertainty she just kept telling me not to worry and only come if I felt up for it. I hope you'll get a similar response😊
I would go ahead and tell her around Christmas if you feel ready. You can still be involved in all the lovely wedding excitement and the hen if you wish. It'll be nice for you to be involved as much as you're able to show her how much you care and to make a fuss of her, even if you can't actually attend the big day x

Just tell her. You don't need to stress out about the best way or when, just sooner the better.

My best friend couldn't make mine because her due date was 2 days before my wedding (and he actually arrived just after). I didn't feel she let me down in anyway. And I was as excited as anyone to welcome her son when he arrived.

If she a true friend she’ll be nothing but overjoyed for you and keen to think of ways you can still be involved. Plus, you take certain risks when you organise a wedding abroad and this is one of them.

Hey Op, congrats on your pregnancy, i think you should tell her as soon as you can, so you can relieve yourself from the stress and also so she can know she can't count on you on organizing anything! Trust me this early on you should stay away from stress.
A true friend will understand, i fan relate cause my bf didn't attend my wedding, she was abroad on work trip and couldn't reschedule and her visa was only one entry. It did suck, but at the end of the day, we re still here for each other's when we can.
But please tell her now about the pregnancy, and maybe later on let her know you cant be attending, one information at a time. Congrats again and prioritize yourself and your baby.

Just be honest, I had a friend who accepted my wedding invite and booked a room (which were in short supply at our actual venue as it was small) and she lied about her due date - I was warned by another friend that her due date was my wedding day and sure enough they ended up not coming at 2 hours notice - the room could have been used by someone else and it cost me money - if she hadn’t accepted the invite in the first place and told me it was her due date I would have totally understood but what she did just caused me loads of last minute seating plan stress.

Why stress? If she's your best friend, she will understand! As for hen do, are you organising it all on your own? I know mine was a team effort! So ask for help! And just talk to your friend, she will understand and be happy for you, if she loves you! 😊

I think your friend will be more upset you didn’t share this happy news with her as soon as you found out!! Tell her asap!! She might postpone or be absolutely fine about it all and be over the moon. Not everyone can afford abroad weddings either so she will soon find out that she will have minimal guests attending anyway xoxoxox

Thankyou everyone for the advise! Really appreciate it and have put my mind at ease. I am seeing her tomorrow so I will share my news with her then. I’ve only known over a week as it’s early and wanted to tell her in person, rather than text. I will let you know how it goes, thankyou for the support :) x