HELP NEEDED

[BeIcySeal]

I currently have a toddler myself from a previous relationship and my partner has 2 again from a previous relationship. I am currently 12 weeks pregnant and have an abortion booked in however I am not sure if I want to go ahead. I am
so unsure to the point I broke down in the hospital on a previous date I was meant to get the procedure. I know what’s best for our situation as we are not living together and have other children to think about but I truly feel like I’m not sure if I can go ahead. Open to all opinions and questions.

Together a year and half

I’m sorry that’s such a difficult situation OP. All that matters really is what you want and what is best for the people in YOUR situation. If you’re at the point of a breakdown in hospital prior to the appointment then I’d be honestly worried about the impact going through with an abortion would have on you.

Yes all I'm worried about is doing "what's best" and it's not being what I can manage.

Have you spoken to your partner about all of these things? If not then I really think that’s worth doing, sit down and look at it practically for a minute, can you afford it, is it doable, do you have the support needed etc and see where that takes you? I appreciate it is a really tough decision to make

Don’t do anything your not 100% happy with.
I had a termination in April 23 and dealing with the feelings after has been horrific.
There is a pregnancy choices group on here with such lovely supportive people in.
I would post there.
Good luck with whatever you choose.

Thank you so much for sharing it really helps

Why are you considering an abortion if you want the baby? It is your body and your choice either way. Is he against it? Would you manage on your own if needed? Is he safe and responsible to co parent with if you separate? Would having him in your life in yhat situation make things difficult? Please do what is right for you, not someone else. Some counselling might help if you can.

I don't feel like I can go through a termination at this stage I also didn't think it would affect me as much as it has. He has 2 so he doesn't want another unless the time is right or planned however says it's my choice I just haven't felt that fully. He's definitely a great co parent and has his children 50/50 split. It would also mean there would be 4 which is a massive adjustment and financially. We would have to move in together which is fine just not something I wanted to rush. I think if we separated the only person who it would really affect is my daughter as she is the only child in the situation who hasn't got another parent as her father is not involved and she very much the last year and half has looked up to my partner as a dad figure. I'm also in my early 20s. I'm not too sure where I'm going with this just trying to give more context.

You don't have to move in together just because you are having a baby together. Keeping this slow will likely be key.