Help needed

[BeIcySeal]

I currently have a toddler myself from a previous relationship and my partner has 2 again from a previous relationship. I am currently 12 weeks pregnant and have an abortion booked in however I am not sure if I want to go ahead. I am
so unsure to the point I broke down in the hospital on a previous date I was meant to get the procedure. I know what’s best for our situation as we are not living together and have other children to think about but I truly feel like I’m not sure if I can go ahead. Open to all opinions and questions.

Together a year and half

Hi please speak to whoever the abortion is booked with, they will be able to offer specialised counselling, people who don't know you online can't really help I'm afraid

I've spoke to the multiple nurses and a counsellor I'll be honest I feel like it's not been much help and I have no idea what more I can do.

I'm sorry to hear. It's worth trying to speak to them again. Unfortunately though no one can make the decision for you, It's very difficult.

I'm just trying to see if anyone has had a similar situation or could possibly give advice that's all.

I can give you my experience, I got pregnant early into my relationship with my partner, we have 4 children between us, me two and him two from previous relationships.

I had a termination at 8 week's, thinking about how everyone else would feel, or what was best for everyone, my partner was more the one saying we could make it work and supportive either way. I was blindly panicking and made the decision.

I can say I to this day regret that decision, I think about it endlessly, I didn't stop to think what I wanted and honestly It would have been to continue the pregnancy. If you think you can make it work and you are hesitant about it, I wouldn't have an abortion. But that's just my experience.

I just want to say I'm really sorry that you still feel that way but thank you so much for sharing your experience it really helps.

I've never been in this situation and I know it's easy to say, but for me personally, I couldn't have a termination unless I was 100% certain it was the right decision. If I had the doubts you are describing I'd find a way to make it work and I'd keep the baby.

I have friends who made the choice to terminate when they were younger who regret it so much to the point It's caused them years of emotional pain and really affected their mental health. One had some complications and never went on to have a living child so is now 47, childless and desperately depressed about it all.

I'm pro-choice and am not saying for one minute there aren't many times when it is the absolute right decision for a woman. I'm just saying it's not something to be taken lightly and I'd have to be absolutely convinced it was the only option before I could do it myself.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Im not against terminations at all.

However, I'm not sure I could go through with it at 12 weeks. You're almost a third the way through your pregnancy already and in my eyes at this point, it's very much a baby & no longer a foetus.

I think you’re clearly really unsure about this so the best thing to do would be to keep the baby, as it sounds like you could really end up regretting and anguishing over a decision to terminate.

I am not anti-abortion, have had one myself, but there was no doubt in my mind and as a result I haven’t regretted it (though even then that’s not to say I don’t sometimes think I about it).

Thank you for sharing. I'm currently in my early 20s which makes it hard.