Guilt over Baby Number 2!!!

[KMwills]

So I am currently 3 weeks away from giving birth to my second DS, my first is 3.5 years old, who we told pretty early on, and he seems very interested talking about his baby Brother etc

But I keep having HUGE waves of guilt, I did when I first found out, and again it seems to be happening like I’m some how betraying him, by loving another baby as well…. Has anyone ever felt this way? It’s just been us for 3.5 years and I feel like I’ve ruined it for him?

I know that sounds ridiculous but isn’t everything sometimes haha

Any thoughts on this or someone who’s felt the same?

I felt the exact same, with a 2.5 year gap. I was also worried how I'd ever love the second as much. 🙈 But nearly 4 months in I can confidently say it's the best gift I could have given either of my children. They have a support network for life in each other, and they already get on so well.

Plenty of jealousy too, but overall my firstborn is very loving towards the baby. My DH & I have prioritised making sure the eldest gets 1:1 time, and it's really helped.

It's so hard isn't it. My DD1 will be nearly 5 when DD2 is born and I have definitely had pangs of guilt about how life will change for her.
She's been brilliant and is very excited but it's been the 3 of us for so long, it's hard to imagine the change of dynamics.

I think it's normal to feel like this

I'm having guilt over baby no3! My girls are 5 and 7 and due to have a boy in 6 weeks. I do feel guilty about how much will change for them but they're excited and other than normal siblings issues, they absolutely love each others company so I don't doubt they'll love playing with their younger brother too

I imagine most parents who have multiple children go through the exact same thing. I grew up with 5 siblings and I love having them in my life. I can't imagine having no siblings at all. It'll be an adjustment and then they won't remember their lives without their new little siblings :)

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with DD, I have a DS who is 2.5 and I feel so guilty at times too. I'm worried I'm turning his little world upside down. He's such a mummy's boy. But I keep reminding myself many, many more kids before him I've had a sibling come along at his age, he's not the only one, and he'll be fine.

There is the same age gap between my boys who are now 7 and 3. The love they have for each other is something special - you are giving them the gift of a sibling and best friend. I felt guilty too but I am so glad they have each other.