Miscarriages

[ImHopeful2023]

Hey all I have had three misscarriages two before my current healthy 18 month old and one after her. I'm turning 41 in a few months and worried have we left it too late to give her a sibling

People have babies at your age it’s get more common so I don’t think it’s too late.

However on the miscarriages front it just depends how many you can cope with before you draw a line under it. If you can carry on going ttc then do but it’s also ok to call it day if you think mentally and physically you don’t want to go through it again. It’s a roll of the dice each time.

Have a length chat with yourself and partner about what you really want. How you would feel if you had another 2 miscarriages etc or what if it all goes right?

For me personally I have had a few and now the age gap is getting too large. We are ttc one more time and that’s it, we are drawing a line under it. If we don’t fall pregnant by a date we are booking a summer holiday and looking at positives. I feel constantly stuck and not living life. I’m looking forward to feeling like I’m moving forward for the first time in a few years.

Be gentle on yourself it’s hard and mentally draining

Thanks @Hollyhollyberry ya we had a chat and said we will try one more time to get pregnant next year and what will be will be I firmly believes whats meant to be will be and I know we are so lucky to have a healthy baby girl and she means even more to us now

i found setting a time frame and thinking about things we could do like going to Disney world etc if it doesn’t happens helps. Think of some positives that you can look forward to if it doesn’t go to plan. It’s helped me mentally loads

We are on our final try for a baby now, after 5 years, 3 losses and being diagnosed with a chromosome issue that means a high risk of miscarriage or stillbirth. I found out I was pregnant again just 2 weeks before I got the blood test results through so playing the waiting game currently. So if this doesn't work, hard as it was to come to the decision, we said that is it for TTC for us. You have to decide how much you want to do/how much you could deal with, and where your stopping point will be, and this is different for everyone, there's no right answer. X

Thanks @Moosey898 I do think well give it one more go and If it doesn't work out then it's not meant to be.. wishing you all the best and hope it all go ok for you

@ImHopeful2023 if you do go for it, I will have everything crossed for you that you have a successful pregnancy xx