Pregnant after mc & wedding!

[allthingspinkx]

Hi all,

I've just found out I'm pregnant in my first cycle after a miscarriage with my wedding in June and I'm due August.

After my mc we weren't going to start trying again until after the wedding so safe to say this is a huge surprise. I'm excited but also now terrified of the thought of having a mc again.

I'm 4 1/2 weeks today and don't want to tell my fiancé or make any wedding re-arrangements until 6 weeks when my mc was unless if he figures it out. I don't want him to go through the rollercoaster if I lose this one too.

Any advice on wedding or reassurance?

Xx

I heard it was way more likely to get pregnant after mc (I had one last month but no luck). Sorry for your loss and also, Congratulations on being pregnant again:) I can imagine how worrying it might be, but I've heard that if it was your first mc there is no additional risk of miscarrying a second time. That you have the same chances of a healthy pregnancy as before. I thiiink I've also read that there's less of a chance of miscarrying a second time, but I'm hazier on that. I've been reading an awful lot of articles about it lately.

On the wedding front-I'd just go for it preggo but then I'm not looking for mine to be a big event. I'd def tell my partner about a pregnancy though. I know what you mean about sparing people the rollercoaster (we were 6 weeks too) but then, a relationship is made more meaningful going through the good and bad and sad together. Obvs it's different for everyone, but if you did tell them, you could make a decision about wedding arrangements together which would lighten your load.

Best of luck with the pregnancy 💐

Congratulations. Hope everything works out

To put it bluntly.

Fuck the wedding! Who cares! The only difference it will make to your big day is you can't drink so I say go for it while pregnant.

Is there a hospital nearby incase the baby decides to make an early appearance?

I was 37 weeks pregnant and our wedding was exactly 1 week before my c-section. Same as you, first cycle after a v late miscarriage.

We had the most relaxed, chilled out wedding and everyone mucked in and made me sit and rest.

Honestly it was amazing and everyone who came (only 30) agreed.

You can get maternity wedding dresses at Seraphina at an absolute fraction of the cost of a standard wedding dress!

Tell your partner though, he can be there with and for you.

Congratulations!

@sisterdaughter thank you I know you're not meant to fixate on the statistics but I find them really reassuring if it's going the right way!

@habgsidldjsbeudbsbsgdjebej No there isn't unfortunately, I'd be about 7.5 months obviously at the wedding so it is quite late on.. I think I'll have to tell my fiancé and see what he thinks. The venue does have an earlier spring date available.

@allthingspinkx sorry for your previous loss. I'd strongly advise telling your partner, surely if you do have another loss he will be able to tell something is wrong and he will have to go through it and process it then anyway?
Wedding wise I'd just do it pregnant - but if you do look to rebook things, I'd give it until you're at least out of the first trimester and the risks are lower. I've missed out on too much because of miscarriages and I would feel awful if I'd changed things and didn't end up needing to have changed them.

@justfornow1 Wow! That sounds beautiful and for the kids as well when they're older it must be great to say that they were there in some way 😊

May I ask if you had a period after your miscarriage before you conceived this time. I've just gone through one myself a few weeks ago and I've started using ovulation sticks to see if I ovulate before my period starts as I've got lots of CM I'm only on day 12 but I usually did ovulate around 13/14
I'm so sorry you went through it but it's so exciting you're conceived again!! I can imagine how scary it is but definitely tell your partner I'm sure he will be overjoyed
Sending love