I feel so guilty

[charlopr]

I have a wonderful little boy who is 2. We've just found out we're pregnant with the second and we had just started trying so feel very grateful and maybe I'm still in shock but I feel so scared.

Our reaction to the first was magical, and I'm feeling so guilty that all I feel right now is really emotional and not as 'happy' as I did with first even though we want this baby.

Is this normal? I feel so emotional and not really sure why I'm so scared ...

It is normal for you. As long as you are not unhappy about it, that is what matters.

Probably the change from 1-2. I’m 11 weeks with DC2 and was over the moon when I seen the positive test but I’ve since thought was it the right decision? How much will our lives change? How will our first cope with not being the only child? I think you’ll feel a range of emotions and they’re totally normal. It’s a big adjustment.

It's normal :). My situation was similar to yours and last week I had my second DC whom I utterly adore.

Unless there is more back story about why you're scared, I think first time round we go in into it not having a true understanding of parenthood but now you do and the rose-tinted glasses are off, but it doesn't mean you love them less.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Thank you for your replies, that's really helpful and makes a lot of sense about knowing what's coming up, so that would make it feel a little different.

I honestly did the test thinking I'm sure I'm not, so think it may take a day or so to get used to.

I think the scared bit comes from all the questions about will I lose the bond I have with 2 year old, what is the financial strain is huge... all those sorts of things

And wow! Congrats on your newborn! That's wonderful and so reassuring, thank you

Very normal. There is book called The Second Baby book that might help.