Not enjoying pregnancy

[Oceansmum21]

I don’t really know what I want from this post, Maybe just other people’s stories so I don’t feel alone?

I am 22W 5D pregnant with my second child, My first pregnancy (in 2021) with my DD was wonderful- I was full of energy, Comfortable and rarely ever sick.

This time around I am carrying a boy and oh my word, This pregnancy is so different! I am sick all the time, I’m struggling with severe constipation (been given meds for both of these things) I’m HUGE- Genuinely look like I’m due soon, and uncomfortable already and starting to suffer with heartburn/acid reflux, Which is triggering health anxiety (thinking I’m having a heart attack) I’m tired 24-7 and just feel absolutely awful!

I love this baby so so much and cannot wait to meet him, I’m just struggling so much at the moment physically and I haven’t got anyone to really talk to about it.

thank you for reading x

We have the same symptoms so wonder if I’m having a boy now! I had literally just said to my partner “I hate being pregnant it’s so unenjoyable” three seconds before I read your post.

the heartburn kills me. Makes me throw up cuz I can’t stand the feeling in my throat. I’m only 12w4d too and the heartburn has been there since the start. I only started being sick in week ten so know I’m lucky and been relatively easy until then, but I’m just so sick already. I can’t wait to feel normal and feel like I won’t even feel normal in second tri.

you’re deffo not alone. I actually won’t get pregnant ever again (this is second pregnancy, first lost at 16w but both me and baby were viciously unwell the entire time - basically like hyperemesis).

I just want to feel okay again and not sick and not have an awful feeling in my throat and not have to eat immediately. It sounds ungrateful and I’m not I know I’m lucky but I hate being pregnant.

I am so completely grateful for my first born and for the child I am currently carrying but not exaggerating at all when I say I really do not enjoy being pregnant at all (there I said it).

Both mine are girls so don't think sex makes a difference to be honest.

DD1 is now 4. Pregnant during covid so was basically locked away from the world, stuck in a different country to now-DH (he missed 5 months of pregnancy, the birth, and the first 7 weeks of her life), hardly anyone even saw me with a bump, I was extremely lonely. Bad sickness, exhaustion, tooth issues, appendicitis and eventually pre-eclampsia.....3 separate hospital stays on my own without visitors.

Currently 24 weeks with DD2, the exhaustion is another level and completely debilitating, sickness and nausea even worse this time round, horrendous heartburn, low blood pressure causing me to keep falling and occasionally pass out.
Still time for so much more but at least I'm with DH this time round.

I had two pregnancies and one was utterly awful and one was fine. Even the fine one was tough at the end. I'd say pregnancy was an interesting experience but I'm not sure I'd want to do it again haha.

I think the key is to be kind to yourself and unapologetically prioritise your comfort as much as possible.

I don’t think it’s the sex either but possibly that it’s a next pregnancy? My first was a boy and it was relatively easy going (after the first trimester and ignoring the very chaotic end). This time I’m 20 weeks and struggling throughout so far. Tired all the time, my iron is very low, backache. I’m bigger than I was with my first by this point (weaker muscles).

Not really enjoying it either. 28 weeks so not too long to go now but so exhausted 24/7 and stressed. Baby is measuring on 96th centile so was sent for a THIRD gtt test on Friday. Sick of the test but also sick of worry as to why he's so big and how will the birth go etc. I can't believe people do this multiple times! This is my first so I may change my mind when I meet him and see it's all worth it!!