Feeling cursed by pregnancy losses 😣

[Blondewave]

I had a missed miscarriage start of the year at 10 weeks. It really took its toll as the pregnancy wouldn’t shift and took two rounds of tablets. Was painful and I bled for weeks after I passed the baby. Just started trying again and I’ve had a chemical pregnancy.

I feel really sad about this and my partner doesn’t understand he says he sure this happens to women all the time but they just don’t know as they never test. Basically got some faint lines on pregnancy tests they never darkened. Getting not pregnant on digital but faint positives on first response and my period is late. It is never ever late.

so I have concluded it is a chemical and I’m feeling very down. I was abit snappy with my partner and said sorry it might be my hormones as my period is late and I think it was an chemical pregnancy as I clearly still have some HcG in my system to see a faint line on early tests and he said I’m talking bullshit and I wasn’t even pregnant. Am I going mad? Is it normal to be down about this? My partner can see the lines but said they are probably always there just darker if pregnant. I’ve tried explaining that it’s stark white if no HCG but feel like I’m loosing the plot. My partner has suggested I read a book on stoicism.

Thanks for any advice / support / similar experiences

If it was a chemical pregnancy you were still pregnant. Of course you will feel a huge range of emotions about this, all of which are entirely valid. Maybe hold off testing for a few days if you can as it sounds inconclusive at the moment.

It looks like I'm having my second pregnancy loss in 6 months. I had a miscarriage in August at 10 weeks and I'm 9 weeks but on ultrasound it's very behind and no heartbeat. I have a week wait to have it confirmed by another scan.
It's hard. Its really hard.
I struggle with sickness is pregnancy and had most of July off sick and have had the last 3 weeks off.
My partner has been supportive but doesn't understand the biology of pregnancy so sometimes I am having to fill in gaps but he does do some reading himself.
I'd suggest that maybe it would be worth finding him information on very early pregnancy loss since he thinks that education is the root out of issues! I'd step away from the tests for a few days.

Ahhh so sorry to hear you are going through this. I had the same thing. Stopped growing about 7/8 weeks but I got sent home and for repeat scans for weeks and then given mife/miso but that didn’t work so I was 12 weeks by the time my body started to bleed and passed the pregnancy 😔 it’s rough when you get into the first trimester so deep…I was the same I get terrible sickness so felt like I wasted weeks for nothing..thinking of you! I hope you get your beautiful baby too and a healthy pregnancy soon 🙏

Your partner is not very understanding and he doesn't have the same hormonal rollercoaster you are going through.

He is right about chemical not being detected in the past, but each period is felt like a Mini loss when someone is trying without success. I guess it is difficult to understand that if someone was not in the same shoes. Or an emotionally retarded man.

(I would snap back to my boyfriend with the stoicism at the first opportunity when he is upset)