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AIBU to want to sit out Christmas this year?

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SunshineMummy2 · 04/12/2024 15:43

Hi
I'll be about 32 weeks Christmas week. Am I being unreasonable if I decide to sit Christmas out this year? Usually we alternate throughout the family but it mostly sits with us hosting (biggest space) or my MIL (smallest space but better location). I have struggle quite a lot this pregnancy and now going through a lot of back pain and the exhaustion is come back that I had in the first trimester. Now my other DSs would prefer to be with their cousins which makes complete sense to me as they're kids. However, it looks like it's being frowned upon that i kind of just want to chill at home. I get that it's a family time, however, I'd much prefer to have the freedom to go for a nap when I want to and put my feet up and not really stress about running around cooking or entertaining other people. By no means am I the life and soul of the party but it's responses like " you can't just sit at home alone on Christmas day!?" These are from the in-laws and my family my DH is happy with whatever.
Thoughts?x

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Sirzy · 04/12/2024 15:52

How old are the other sons?

I think with children if you can go (and do nothing at all!) for a few hours then home to chill that may be something to suit everyone

Travellingraspberry · 04/12/2024 15:53

Can you go for a shorter amount of time? Either as a family or DH and DSs can go for the whole day and you join for half of it?

SunshineMummy2 · 04/12/2024 16:15

The boys are 8 and 6. My oldest is fine. He knows we spend the morning opening presents and spending time. It's the evening that's the problem.
Also my MIL place is tight, I was there a couple weeks ago and struggled to get comfortable. I'm not sure if I'm just not wanting to do anything and getting frustrated about this pregnancy ( I just want the baby now lol ) or would just want the alone down time but obviously have children.

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CoastalCalm · 04/12/2024 16:27

Do what makes you happy !

We have moved away from joining the extended family for Christmas lunch and our home is too small for them all to come here. Last couple of years we have had Christmas with my mum after losing dad , first year had a standard roast lunch , last year went to Indian restaurant and this year just having a roast ham and some sides at home and some lovely seafood ordered.

We meet up with the wider family for tea and games but I think this year we may skip that as I’m recovering from surgery and a subsequent infection

SunshineMummy2 · 04/12/2024 16:31

@CoastalCalm ordering in some seafood sounds lovely. I do think I am moving away from the idea that we HAVE to do something with the extended family although I will be repeatedly out voted on that. Hope you recovery goes well

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