Trying to get pregnant at 40 after miscarriage anyone have a happy ending

[ImHopeful2023]

Hi all,

Just back from pregnancy loss unit and she explained results of tests show that the loss was due to my egg being old and not carrying the right amount of .... Can't remember the word she used something about it should have three and it didn't. Im just worried that I'll never have a healthy pregnancy after this miscarriage

Hi, @ImHopeful2023. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Do you mean that karotyping revealed a genetic/chromosomal issue that caused your miscarriage? It's impossible for anyone to say with certainty that your miscarriage was caused by the overall quality of your eggs. What they can say, is that in general egg quality declines with age, but it's entirely possible for some genetic issues to be isolated to one 'bad' egg, rather than all of your remaining eggs, if that makes sense. And that can sadly happen regardless of age. It just tends to happen more often at our age.

I had a tough run of it while trying to conceive DD (2.5 years now). I was 38. We tried for a year and had three miscarriages and an ectopic in that time. While the ectopic was a fluke, I'm told, the recurrent miscarriages were likely, but not proven to be, age-related. I was never able to complete any karotyping due to a lack of fetal tissue. But, we kept going and we got there. I was 39 when DD was born.

I'm now 36 weeks pregnant with DS at 41 (i'll be 42 in early Feb). This time we tried for 8 months and I didn't fall pregnant as often. We suffered one loss that was actually anembryonic, before DS stuck.

So, it's NOT impossible, dependent upon any specific genetic issues that may have been identified for you and/or your partner. Don't give up hope.

Good luck, OP. And give yourself time to heal. 💐

Hi yes she said my misscarriages was due to karotyping and brought up how my eggs are old now andy partner can make new sperm but I cant make new eggs

Hi OP, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

I'm 42 in a few weeks and currently 23 weeks pregnant. Conceived naturally and all scans, NIPT etc have been great so far.

Don't get disheartened.

Well whoever you saw needs a bit of training in bedside manner!

I had six miscarriages, at least two of which were due to chromosomal abnormalities - trisomies 13 and 18.

However, I got pregnant at 42, had my son at 43 and he is the light of my life.

So there's hope!

I'm sorry, @ImHopeful2023 , I agree with @herbaceous. Your experience there sounds poor, to say the least. Whoever you spoke to should have been more sensitive and precise about what medical science currently knows about egg quality.

All it takes is good general health and one 'good' egg and as you have not yet concluded menopause, that person can't say definitively that you don't have one waiting!

Thanks I think she mentioned 13 or could have been 12 my head is all over place since

Thanks @Unsure4589 I'm justa bit all over place since appointment she was on about in six months If your not pregnant look into fertility clinics and maybe using someone else's egg

I had multiple miscarriages through my 30s. Gave up at 39 then found out I was pregnant just before my 40th birthday. DS was 20 this year. So yes it’s possible.

Not every ovum you produce will be unhealthy it’s just statistically more likely as you age.

Keep trying, a friend of mine is nearly 28 wks pregnant ( all healthy so far) at 43. She has been trying for years and didn’t think it was possible.

She’s not wrong, the probability of miscarriage goes up with age and chromosomal abnormalities are behind the majority of first trimester loses.

Having said that I am 46 and currently 24 weeks pregnant. It is a spontaneous pregnancy after 9 first trimester loses (had them all in my 40s). I will be 47 when the baby is born.

Congratulations @CortieTat just hoping I dont go through anymore just head all over place after today

Also, the only option isn't donor eggs. I was going to do IVF with pre-implantation genetic analysis, which would have spotted any embryos with trisomies.

Not cheap, mind.

I never started as got pregnant with DS!

Got pregnant with my 3rd at almost 42 after miscarriage. Sorry for your loss but don’t give up hope. Get a digital Clearblue monitor to track your cycle and maximise your chances.

Thanks @herbaceous and congratulations

Thanks @DGPP I have bought clearblue ovulation just after yesterday was a bit down

I booked a major holiday for my 40th. It coincided with England cricket tour so was booked 12 months ahead. I joked at the time it would be my luck to get pregnant. I found out I was pregnant six weeks before we flew out. My Gp organised a couple of scans before we left and all was ok so advised me to go ahead.
We always joke that it is the reason DS has such a love of cricket. He was impressed that we had a mini bat signed by Brian Lara.
My best friend had the same experience but she cancelled her holiday,
We had planned to take DS back there in 2020 but it wasn’t to be.
I vv do believe that relaxing helps. Taking the pressure off does help.