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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Support with “unsupportive” partner & early pregnancy

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ThisNewScroller · 30/11/2024 19:06

how would you feel if you told your partner you were pregnant with your second child, have argued over the smallest of things basically since you broke the news a few weeks ago and now have been told explicitly that they aren’t happy about the situation and have told me that I will not be able to cope and it will be absolute hell. I raise my child basically on my own 7 days a week with prehaps an odd hours break here or there. I do all household chores including dinners laundry etc etc etc
So yes I find some days hard and overstimulating and will be the first to admit I’ve had a sh*t day and that it’s been hard, not to mention my little one doesn’t like to sleep much so throw in some sleep deprivation in there - I think overall I do a pretty darned good job but that’s clearly not seen or appreciated by my partner and now he tells me this

im hurt but dont know if im over-reacting or what to feel or think!! I’m early on in this pregnancy but I feel like there’s no joy in it now that he’s admitted that he feels this way - how am I supposed to be normal with him when he feels this way? When I try to talk to him he gets angry and walks away

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Ponderingwindow · 30/11/2024 19:13

I suppose my reaction to his reaction would depend on if we had been using birth control. If we weren’t preventing a pregnancy, I would be angry. If we weren’t preventing, I would try to understand that is was not the plan and he needs some time to wrap his head around it.

Mrsttcno1 · 30/11/2024 19:23

Ponderingwindow · 30/11/2024 19:13

I suppose my reaction to his reaction would depend on if we had been using birth control. If we weren’t preventing a pregnancy, I would be angry. If we weren’t preventing, I would try to understand that is was not the plan and he needs some time to wrap his head around it.

Yeah I agree with this.

If things are already full on/stressful AND it was an unplanned pregnancy, I think I’d give some grace here.

Adamsapple89 · 30/11/2024 23:03

I’m you are completely alone in parenting that does sound hard. As PP said was it planned. Honestly I’m not sure why you’d want another child with someone who does nothing for your existing child and rather respond with encouragement of how he will help you it’s the opposite. He clearly has no plans to step up as father because as he says YOU won’t cope

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