Over 40 pregnancy stressed !

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Not sure where to start, so I’m 42, 4 children ages 20 18 14 and 9, full time job and pregnant. I didn’t know as I thought it was menopause and still had a period. Even had a correction on breast implants without knowing. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m scared to tell my friends and family as getting married next year and baby due a week after wedding. My friends have booked my hen in Dubai and u won’t be able to go as emirtes don’t. I’ve had to cancel honeymoon and a holiday to Zanzibar. I feel absolutely horrendous look like a whale. Last night I saw every hour going to the loo. I have a 13 week scan on Friday and so worried about abnormalities as I’m older and classed as a high risk. What am I thinking, I said to my other half will I ever feel human again after all this and I’m freaking out about telling the hen party and my family. Allthough they can still go and if want them too! I just feel so bad about everyone and everything has anyone had similar feelings and experiences? I have had a scan at 10 weeks so I know it’s there . I also know people would kill to be pregnant and I am happy but feel like I’m on a rollercoaster I can’t get off

I'm currently 40weeks +1 I fell pregnant aged 42 and was on the pill ! We already have an 18 year old daughter and 13 year old son. I also mistook symptoms as perimenopause! Didn't take a test and realise till I was 18 weeks ! Waited 2 weeks for scan as thought I was only 12 weeks max. So by time I had first scan I was too late for any genetic testing. Luckily everything was ok. I'm generally fit and healthy and this pregnancy has been no different to my 20s. I'll be honest when I first found out I freaked out, was contemplating a termination, but when I realised how far along I was I couldn't possibly have done it. I am due to give birth any day but it still doesn't feel real ! I'm both excited and terrified at the big change.

Chill. Wait for the scan. Have all the tests, stay calm.

@Sab1981 thank you and I hope all goes well. Just feels like extremely bad thing for myself but I guess what will be will be

Bad timing not bad thing 🤦🏻‍♀️

One day you’ll look back and be like I can’t imagine how my life would have been without this child, they were always meant to be here 💐

Congratulations! 43 here, lost two at 41 but hoping to have a successful frozen egg transfer in the new year and delivering at 44. We have just on 10 year old. I've been through a lot of "what if this and that where to happen" but I know that not trying would be worse for me. Wishing you the best. Everything will work out have faith x

@Schoolrunmum81 thank you and I hope all goes well for you. Your words mean alot

@Nc546888 thank you 🙏 it’s just all overwhelming and I can’t help but google and think the worse