Pregnant again after early loss - driving myself mad

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Hi everyone, I found out I was pregnant yesterday after suffering an early loss in September at approx five weeks. I’m currently 4w5d.

I have a 2-year-old and got pregnant with him immediately after another early loss, so I know logically I can carry a healthy baby to term but I am massively struggling with anxiety about this pregnancy.

In September with my previous pregnancy I tried to take the optimistic approach and notified my GP, was referred to the midwife etc, only then to suffer the loss days later and have to go through the trauma of receiving appointment letters etc which was awful. I felt so silly for allowing myself to think it would all be okay.

I’m so hesitant to accept this pregnancy and get the ball rolling with the midwife etc. I’m sitting with tissues in my knickers constantly so I can check for bleeding. Does anyone have any advice with coping and getting through these early weeks?

p.s sorry if I should be posting in a different area x

My sympathy. Pregnancy after loss is really hard. Book in your midwife appointment. When you get there ask her to arrange for an early scan at the EPU due to your previous loss. Remember that you are more likely to have a successful pregnancy than a loss. Tell yourself ‘today I am pregnant’. Don’t pee on sticks. That way madness lies. Good luck x

Give your midwife a call, get the ball rolling but they might be able to adjust the timetable.
I had a miscarriage in August at 10 weeks and am pregnant again. My midwife booked my booking appointment a week later than she would have done. I managed to get an early scan at the epu the day before.
I require a referral to the perinatal mental health team in pregnancy. Last time it was done at 8 weeks so I had to cancel it. This time I have asked for them to hold off the referral until I have had my 12 week scan.
Last time I messaged my GP and they cancelled my appointments for me.

I had a very similar situation last year, and am typing this with my three month old snuggled on my chest. It was so hard to relax with the pregnancy, even past the stage of early loss I had (also around 5 weeks). I found booking a 7 week scan was vital for my mind, as I needed to know one way or the other if everything was ok at that stage. I still held my breath until my booking scan at 14 weeks but gradually it became easier to enjoy it.

It really helped to remind myself my body had done it before, and I had no reason to believe I wouldn't be able to do it again.

I hope all goes well for your 🌈