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Cokewithlemon · 26/11/2024 13:57

I am currently 9 weeks pregnant with my first child. TTC has been mentally rough, I have PCOS and was told it would be a challenge for me to conceive naturally, but thankfully after 10 months of trying we fell pregnant naturally. I'm beyond grateful for this gift I've been given, my life feels so full. I've told my parents who are thrilled, I've told a couple close friends who are also over the moon. My partner wants to tell his family at Christmas when we have the scan photo, and I'll be telling the rest of my family then too.

I have a close friend who I'll be telling, but I don't know how to go about it. We've spoken about me TTC over the last year, she knows how much I've wanted to be a mum, how it's all I've ever wanted. She told me she's never wanted kids, and loves being an auntie. However she has recently found out she is perimenopausal (she's 34), it's hit her harder than she thought it would, understandably so. Because of health issues she's had, it brought on early menopause and she wasn't offered any potential fertility treatment at the time. Naturally she feels cheated of this, its a lot of mixed emotions.

How do I announce my news to her? What can I do to make it easier for her? And for myself at dealing with her response?

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Herewegoagain8 · 26/11/2024 14:04

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Just tell her via text message so she can process it in her own time and not have to react straight away in front of you. Please don’t send her a scan photo, just a simple message. She will still be happy for you , even if she’s sad for herself.

xMrsxHx87x · 26/11/2024 20:28

I've just been through a similar experience. I've done IVF after 3 years of TTC and so far I'm just over 11 weeks. My close friend is unable to have children for the same reasons as yours. I told her over text. She responded straight away and was very positive, but that doesn't mean she wasn't privately sad. I won't know either way, but sharing the news over text at least allows them to process any sadness they may feel privately.

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