Hi
Sorry if this is the wrong area to post, I wasn't sure where to post
I've come to the conclusion I'm not going to have children. Long story short I have a condition which means it'll be harder to look after a child physically if I wait much longer.
I'm 33 and decided a long time ago if I haven't got children before 35 then I'm not having them. I have been in a relationship for the last couple of years and finally asked a few weeks ago if he would consider living together at some point in the future. We both own separate homes, so it would be something we would have to plan and decide where we would ultimately live, whether that was one of our existing homes or a separate one we would buy together. Obviously this could take 12 months easily to sort with any selling or buying so it wasn't like I was expecting him to move in next week or something. He basically replied with, I would, but I've fixed my mortgage and that doesn't expire for another 3 years so I can't.
I mean he is well aware you can pay for early redemption of a mortgage, we'd actually be able to afford a house mortgage free between us. Whatever, either way, he didn't exactly sound overjoyed at the idea and I've dropped the conversation
It led me to thinking about my original timeline, even if this relationship ended and I found someone else who would be happy to live with me and have children that's not really gonna happen before 35.
I'm happy to stick to my deadline and tbh I'm sick of taking hormonal contraception if I don't need to and wouldn't mind having the permanent fix of sterilisation. Do they do this for women who haven't had children on the NHS, how long are waiting times, what is the recovery like?